Relationship advice needed

Rasta Roy

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Ive known this girl since we were children, but started dating her again for the last 3 years. My problem was she was living with me and she would stay out to 3 oclock when she did hang with her friends, which was about every 3 months. So I would put her out and hook back up 4 or 5 days later and tell her not to do it again......she just kept messing up doing it again and again....now she doesnt do it anymore....shes in by 10 oclock now. a year ago i caught her sneaking texting her daughters father from her daughters phone asking where a party was at and that she was gonna step out. and i put her out for 2 weeks before I let her back home. My problem is she is best friends with 4 of my cousins that I barely even know. She grew up with them on the other side of town. The problem is, is that she wont let me get close to any of her family or friends. Everytime we argue she would go and tell them a whole lot of things that I said. I asked her why would You do that because if you want to marry me imma have to get close to your circle, or at least be civil with. But calling them telling them unneccessary stuff is un called for. Almost like she purposely want them to hate me. She never bring me around her family...She dont even deal with her family and they known me since childhood. She bring her friends around to say hi and then leave. 2 weeks ago I kicked her out for a week for not waking me up telling me she was leaving. I woke up not knowing if she was dead or not and it pissed me off. It seems like every 3 months she F. up.....What you think.
As a married man let me give you some relationship advice.

You either accept everything your partner is and does.

Or you don't.

You don't put them out until they act right (this method doesn't even work for training dogs dude). You don't even tell them to be different, people change for themselves not for others. And if you want someone to change for you, at worst you're being an asshole. At best, you're not humaning right.

If who someone is or what they do upsets you enough to not be with them, don't be with them.

And definitely don't be with that girl, she is 100% sleeping around, I'd call it cheating but not really when you keep putting her out.
 

jerryb73

Well-Known Member
As a married man let me give you some relationship advice.

You either accept everything your partner is and does.

Or you don't.

You don't put them out until they act right (this method doesn't even work for training dogs dude). You don't even tell them to be different, people change for themselves not for others. And if you want someone to change for you, at worst you're being an asshole. At best, you're not humaning right.

If who someone is or what they do upsets you enough to not be with them, don't be with them.

And definitely don't be with that girl, she is 100% sleeping around, I'd call it cheating but not really when you keep putting her out.
Real talk..
 
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