Would this work?

Luger187

Well-Known Member
what's the "bbq" part?
barbeque

urca, drop this tard already. hes not the love of your life. i know its easy to get attached at a young age but you should realize youre only 18. you are just starting to play the game, and you cant expect this guy to be perfect. move on
 

Padawanbater2

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barbeque

urca, drop this tard already. hes not the love of your life. i know its easy to get attached at a young age but you should realize youre only 18. you are just starting to play the game, and you cant expect this guy to be perfect. move on
This. + it'll take this lesson for you to learn what Lugar and I are talking about. When you get older you will realize these things. I didn't want to hear it when I was your age either, but it's the truth.
 

Finshaggy

Well-Known Member
Ok so had this very long talk with the dude ive mentioned lots of times on here today. He said he doesnt want to do anything "sexual" because he doesnt want to lead me on, but when we hang out we'll talk about it more and we'll see what happens.

Which is something I can work with, seeing as I've been wanting to take it a little slow for a while, but when I first heard it, I was very hurt.

So, my question is, can we still kiss and what not? He wants to see me tonight, and Im game, except for what he said earlier. The thing is, I cant go be around him and not want to touch him or kiss him.

I was thinking if I play it cool, down play my appearance (no makeup, no sexy clothes/low cut shirts), and not be on him or flirty, that I fufill my part of it.
but here's the kicker. I know him. If I do not touch him I know he will find reasons to touch me. and Im planning to smoke him out.

If we do kiss, how can I keep it at just kissing, so that he and I both get what we want?

I know this sounds stupid but bear with me, Im young and well, I want him more than anything.

STOP IT.

SSSSSSTTTTTTOOOOOOPPPPPP

You're playing with YOUR OWN EMOTIONS
 

Sr. Verde

Well-Known Member
My opinion? Only way to keep it simple is to keep it out of the picture. Discontinue any romantic aspect with this one. That is my honest advice.
If he doesn't start something, all's well.
If he does try, then YOU be the one to say "thanks but let's not".
cn



This is seriously the best advice you can get....

Romance, and sexual allure is all a mind game..... If you want it, you won't get it....... Once you give up and just don't give a fuck anymore the opposite sex is all over you.

As soon as you divulge your true desires to a *stranger* you give up your power over the situation...... The other person now has vice over you, they have power over you (they know what you WANT more than anything in the relationship), and may manipulate you and lead you onto nothing if they know this.... You don't want to give that up... Or your just going to emotionally hurt yourself...


That's why you just keep your chin up..Keep checking all opportunities out, don't narrow your focus - realize life may surprise you, what you want now is not what you will want in 2-3 years... Like if you don't mind if nothing happens between you guys - this makes the other party more comfortable. They aren't pressured into a relationship they are uncomfortable with..

once they signal that there is a mutual interest (don't take FLIRTING as a signal, many FLIRT but aren't interested).. you can take it slow, and slowly give up your 'control' over that relationship - until you are putting yourself out there emotionally -equally... and then your in a romantic, mutual relationship... As soon as your in a relationship, then you can start putting yourself out there - if the person accepts you for who you are then AWESOME, you found something people seldom find....... If that person just wants POWER over you, and has it..... Your relationship has an expiration date just like all the food in the grocery store.... It will go bad inevitably.


all i'm going to say about relationships and love :lol:



Spark a joint, and enjoy the promiscuity of life! :leaf:
 

Sandbagger

New Member
This is seriously the best advice you can get....

Romance, and sexual allure is all a mind game..... If you want it, you won't get it....... Once you give up and just don't give a fuck anymore the opposite sex is all over you.

As soon as you divulge your true desires to a *stranger* you give up your power over the situation...... The other person now has vice over you, they have power over you (they know what you WANT more than anything in the relationship), and may manipulate you and lead you onto nothing if they know this.... You don't want to give that up... Or your just going to emotionally hurt yourself...


That's why you just keep your chin up..Keep checking all opportunities out, don't narrow your focus - realize life may surprise you, what you want now is not what you will want in 2-3 years... Like if you don't mind if nothing happens between you guys - this makes the other party more comfortable. They aren't pressured into a relationship they are uncomfortable with..

once they signal that there is a mutual interest (don't take FLIRTING as a signal, many FLIRT but aren't interested).. you can take it slow, and slowly give up your 'control' over that relationship - until you are putting yourself out there emotionally -equally... and then your in a romantic, mutual relationship... As soon as your in a relationship, then you can start putting yourself out there - if the person accepts you for who you are then AWESOME, you found something people seldom find....... If that person just wants POWER over you, and has it..... Your relationship has an expiration date just like all the food in the grocery store.... It will go bad inevitably.


all i'm going to say about relationships and love :lol:



Spark a joint, and enjoy the promiscuity of life! :leaf:
This is so true !
 

guy incognito

Well-Known Member
I have to agree with peter griffin. Who the hell cares?

Stop thinking about it so much. You are going to look back on him and this whole situation and realize how silly you are, probably in the not too distant future. Just fucking chill the fuck out and relax.
 

Morgan Lynn

Active Member
I'm not trying to be mean, but it sounds to me like he is grooming you to be his fuck buddy. After the sex he can tell you I told you blah,blah,blah. Then how's it gonna be ? Tell him how you feel. If he bolts so be it.
This situation is not uncommon. My friend fell for this trick and it destroyed a lot of her friendships. The guy was a mutual friend with her friends (a huge fucking mess).

A man will tell you straight up that he doesn't want anything serious and will still make you feel like a queen. Then a month later he'll get bored and bring up the only few words he will remember out of the entire time you've spent together, "I told you I didn't want a relationship".

Avoid those men at all costs.
 

jadeey

Active Member
um, thats what i dont want to do. I just want a nice night where we hang out, etc, and tbh, yes I want to kiss him a touch him a bit. but not go overboard like a blowjob
lol just say no if he tries anything I do it to my boyfriend when he's on punishment >.<
but blowjobs are always good (;
If anything just control yourself I know it's hard but just try
 
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