do i really have a problem?

okay. this is me venting some shit so bare with me :/ ... all of the time i just want to be high. its to the point where if im not high then i am looking to get high or i am doing anything to get high. i wouldn't say im addicted because i have had to go long periods of time without weed (2-4 months) and i can be just fine. its just that im always so depressed unless im high. like not "oh i want to kill myself" depressed. but more "what am i even trying for? i have no friends, no job and i feel so useless" depressed. i know i can do a lot of things to fix this but it almost seems like i dont want to. like im comfortable at this level. and anytime people ask me to do things i just blow them off and sit in my room alone. why? there is one girl that makes me happy anytime i am with her. and i mean completely happy. but she lives kinda far and i have no car. so its like im either depressed, high or with her. is this something anyone else is going through? is smoking weed making things worse or am i just imagining things? please help me if at all possible. im so trapped and alone and i dont want this to be my normal anymore. i want to have friends and do things like a normal 18 year old should. #torn :/

I'll be your friend.

thank you. ha.... idk how this can work

Stop smoking weed for a couple of years, clear your head and work, get a car a see your girl.

bro find a hobby.. simple as that. pick up a sport or a craft and designate your time to that since you have so much time to be high.

your hobby will bring you across people with the same interest and is a strong point for starting friendships

iamdonds said:

okay. this is me venting some shit so bare with me :/ ... all of the time i just want to be high. its to the point where if im not high then i am looking to get high or i am doing anything to get high. i wouldn't say im addicted because i have had to go long periods of time without weed (2-4 months) and i can be just fine. its just that im always so depressed unless im high. like not "oh i want to kill myself" depressed. but more "what am i even trying for? i have no friends, no job and i feel so useless" depressed. i know i can do a lot of things to fix this but it almost seems like i dont want to. like im comfortable at this level. and anytime people ask me to do things i just blow them off and sit in my room alone. why? there is one girl that makes me happy anytime i am with her. and i mean completely happy. but she lives kinda far and i have no car. so its like im either depressed, high or with her. is this something anyone else is going through? is smoking weed making things worse or am i just imagining things? please help me if at all possible. im so trapped and alone and i dont want this to be my normal anymore. i want to have friends and do things like a normal 18 year old should. #torn :/

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Sounds like you are lost. You need a J-O-B son. Then your life will have some structure.

Dude, just back off the smoke. Take a break... serious.
If you not using it for true medical purposes. Take a vacation from the stuff.
Clear you head... maybe you will find smoking is not for you anymore. Happened to me.
I went smoke free for 30 years.. Now back on the stuff for medical reasons.

You know there is one thing about this site that never disappoints me. People argue & fight all the time but when a serious question is asked its all positive

maybe you're just bored, do you have anything you enjoy doing/are good at?

Disc golf? I think you'll meet about 40 people like you there. You're young, you can get this on track. Are you any good with computers? Did you finish high school? Maybe you could think of a job that you would enjoy going to, and then spend some time getting qualified to get a job like that. Work sucks less if you like what you do.
The best advice I could give you would be to look for small wins, positive things or accomplishments and then build on those. In the meantime, you have people here that will talk to you or e-hang. Good luck.

everyone has issues. only dead folks have no problems. BUDS gives you good advice. too much much of a good thing can bring a man down.

yeah. thats true. and im getting so much feedback. more than i thought. its helping. thank you all very much.

Thats is what I refer to your adolescent stoner period. I was like that in highschool, all waking hours going to try and get high. Then you get a job and a girlfriend and don't smoke all day. It's much more rewarding to smoke as a reward instead of just constantly geeked out and not productive at anything other than that act of getting high. Just going through the motions...

I absolutely agree with neo ... at eighteen you need to look toward building your station in life. cn

iamdonds said:

okay. this is me venting some shit so bare with me :/ ... all of the time i just want to be high. its to the point where if im not high then i am looking to get high or i am doing anything to get high. i wouldn't say im addicted because i have had to go long periods of time without weed (2-4 months) and i can be just fine. its just that im always so depressed unless im high. like not "oh i want to kill myself" depressed. but more "what am i even trying for? i have no friends, no job and i feel so useless" depressed. i know i can do a lot of things to fix this but it almost seems like i dont want to. like im comfortable at this level. and anytime people ask me to do things i just blow them off and sit in my room alone. why? there is one girl that makes me happy anytime i am with her. and i mean completely happy. but she lives kinda far and i have no car. so its like im either depressed, high or with her. is this something anyone else is going through? is smoking weed making things worse or am i just imagining things? please help me if at all possible. im so trapped and alone and i dont want this to be my normal anymore. i want to have friends and do things like a normal 18 year old should. #torn :/

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First of all, relax. Take a deep breath. We're in a recession. Times are hard. It's perfectly normal to feel the way you do. It's scary out there in the big world. Any sane person would want to detach themselves from all the shit going on. The only problem I see is that you're using Cannabis to self-medicate. You're using it as a crutch. It's not a physical addiction. It's an emotional one. You need to understand that medicating isn't a solution. It's a tool to help you cope with shit while you're trying to find the solution.

Second, get outside. Get in the sunlight and fresh air. Your body needs it. It will help your body with your seratonin production. If you're not exercising, then start. Your body produces endorphins that help with depression. Plus you'll have the mental satisfaction of accomplishing something. If you truly want things to change then you'll have to put some effort into it.

Third. Set up a sleep schedule. Don't stay up until dawn and then sleep all day. You're fucking with your inner clock and that can throw off your body's equilibrium and exacerbate your depression. If you have to stay up 24 hours to get back on schedule, then do it.

Fourth. (if you can) eat healthy foods that give you energy. Proteins, complex carbohydrates, fruits, vegetables. Stay away from simple carbs. Junk food should be avoided as much as possible. If the depression persists then seek professional help if you can.

Fifth. Cut back on your Cannabis consumption and avoid alcohol as much as you can. It too can fuck with your depression.

Lastly. This too shall pass. It's not the end of the world. You're going through a rough patch. They don't last forever. Keep that in mind. There is a light at the end of the tunnel. Always remember, it can't last. You will feel better. It's only a matter of time and effort.

Anyway, that's my two cents.

and fyi for all of you. i said this in a previous post but i make music. i play guitar and sing. really well actually. im sort of well known in my city for that. i've played shows. but recently ALL of my guitar stuff got stolen. my recording equipment. everything. and i have no way to get it back :/ but that was my hobby. i really do have a lot of people that like me. like i'll see them somewhere and they will just talk to me forever about nothing. people that i dont even know do it too! but after the encounter is over, i go back to being depressed. same with going to a party or something. every time. after i leave and im by myself i get so depressed. sometimes i just walk to a public place so i can pretend like im doing something with somebody. its quite sad.

I agree with those saying to cut back on the smoke and find a hobby, there are things out there you will enjoy doing, you just need to find them.

i wish i could like your comment but its not giving me an option to.

sorry wrong thread

iamdonds said:

and fyi for all of you. i said this in a previous post but i make music. i play guitar and sing. really well actually. im sort of well known in my city for that. i've played shows. but recently ALL of my guitar stuff got stolen. my recording equipment. everything. and i have no way to get it back :/ but that was my hobby. i really do have a lot of people that like me. like i'll see them somewhere and they will just talk to me forever about nothing. people that i dont even know do it too! but after the encounter is over, i go back to being depressed. same with going to a party or something. every time. after i leave and im by myself i get so depressed. sometimes i just walk to a public place so i can pretend like im doing something with somebody. its quite sad.

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I know how the feels man. I'm really sorry about your guitar gear man, that is one of the most violating feelings ever. I had this happen to my art supplies and it literally stripped me of my passion for years. I was just too bummed out to even want to start up again. Even today I still don't draw as much, but there are other reasons for that...I should probably figure that out therapeutically.


I used to get that feeling a lot, loney when u leave the group. And unfortunately yes, cannabis will make this feeling worse. People like to say pot is so great for you and it is, but it does have some downsides. But it's largely a mental game we all play with ourselves. I don't see it ending ever. The only thing is the we can do is distract ourselves.

Also don't master ate so much, it milks you of all your energy.