RawBudzski
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god probably has some killer bud,. the i bet the trichs are gold and glow.
Father just passed, not sure what to do.
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bigv1976
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Amen bro!! There aint no DEA where he is at.
jhopkins34
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Damn I'm sorry to hear about your lost, my mom got suddenly diagnosed with a brain tumor last year and it was strange but I didn't feel that bad or sad or anything, I got lucky and she made it through it, but what I can tell you is that whenever those tough days come just take a smoke and do what makes you feel happy, because all that matters is right now, not today tomorrow or yesterday, just now, and its important to feel good now
BeachsideGreen
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Y'all have some encouraging words. As for your situation my friend. This was the exact situation between my father and I. I was lucky and finally dropped my ego. This may be harder for your son. If that's the case, you will need to drop your ego. I hope y'all say you love each other from time to time. I didn't for the longest time, but I am damn grateful I started to in the last 2 months. Trust me, I know how difficult it is to say it for the first time in a long time. But with every time you say it, it becomes easier and easier. It took me til' now to believe the old adage "we don't live forever." It's true, and you never want to regret not telling someone something. Always live and love, and keep happy relationships, because they end eventually... My only regret is I didn't hug him, and tell him I loved him on Monday......
Sr. Verde
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reeffermadness
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First off, I am sorry to hear about your loss and my condolences to you and your family. I earlier this year lost my Grandfather. He was old but we were very very close. And he died some what unexpectedly. So I know the feeling of loss of someone really close. I can tell you the shock lasted for actually the whole week leading up to his actual funeral. Thats when I lost it and started to cry uncontrollably. Reason being was I needed some closure before he passed, you know make him proud of me. Unfortunately I never did get a chance to do that. So a big burden and terrible feeling was in my stomache for quite a few months after the funeral actually. But I can tell you from experience that time will heal all. It may not seem like it at first, but eventually it will. As for my closure, well maybe it will come one day and I will just have to believe that when I do something good, my grandfather will be smiling down on me in his most proudest fashion. Any ways Im not sure if this helped you any at all, but the best thing to do is to surround yourself with your close family and keep busy, but definitely think about it as painful as it might be because sometimes those memories will save you.
nretnal
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My dad passed away when I was 15.
maybe you haven't gotten upset yet because you're feeling emotionally detached. I know how that is, the same has happened to me with other family members/friends who have died in the past.
however when my dad died I'm actually the one who found him deceased, so it was much more traumatic..
What kind of input are you looking for exactly? If you need some support coping or just someone to talk to who has had a similar experience, feel free to send me a private message.
Hope you're holding up alright.
<3 Sami
maybe you haven't gotten upset yet because you're feeling emotionally detached. I know how that is, the same has happened to me with other family members/friends who have died in the past.
however when my dad died I'm actually the one who found him deceased, so it was much more traumatic..
What kind of input are you looking for exactly? If you need some support coping or just someone to talk to who has had a similar experience, feel free to send me a private message.
Hope you're holding up alright.
<3 Sami
Smoke Friend
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My father passed when i was very young. Just stay strong, everyone gonna die at one point.
StudioNNNy
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When me and my girlfriend were younger, she lost her father to a terrible car accident when he was only 39. 8 Days before Christmas. It must have been a good 6 or 7 months before it really set in and hit her hard. Everyone griefs differently, and with some it takes longer before it hits home, but when it does, just be sure to have people who love you around. Can't imagine what it's like, but I've been there while she was going through it. Deeply sorry for your loss 
I thought you might be interested in knowing that since your post I have gone out of my way to treat my son as good as I know how to. We have been talking much more about day to day stuff and it feels great. Figured you might take some solace in that since after reading your post I rededicated myself to not being a hard ass on him and to let him learn at his own speed. You take care of yourself.
BeachsideGreen
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Good for you sir. That is definitely great news to hear. I appreciate everyones input, and wish you the very best sir. Keep it up, you and your son will look down the road and be thankful. We had a good service for my father which relieved a lot of tension. Everything is getting a bit better. Everyone take care, especially around the holidays.
Rascality Afoot
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OK guys, I am so proud to be on this forum because of things like this. Lets all keep looking out for eachother