fiance wants to put an end to my "hobby"

So my fiance thinks that I have a problem, she thinks I'm addicted to growing bud. She doesn't want me smoking either cause of my job, possible random ua's. She thinks that since I grow and usually have atleast an ounce of prime dried and cured herb in the house that I will never stop smoking. What she doesn't know is that I've passed ua's with synthetic before but she would flip if she found out I was doing that behind her back. She's been hitting me with these ultimatums lately, growing or the relationship, and honestly I'm having a hard time choosing. I think that weed is wrongfully accused of being dangerous, I also believe in its medical value, and I've succeeded in not selling bud to people I feel are affiliated with violent criminals and I am very generous with my herb as well as I believe that's good karma. What should I do???

i think u need to find a different woman

looking like u may be a farmer for the rest of your life. its imposible to stop growing those buds youve been growing.
you need to call off the marrige. fast.

Somebody that wants to change who you are, isnt in love with you. for them its the idea of being in love, and they think that you should submit to their will.
If your a freeman and can think for yourself, she should admire that quality, not want to squash it.

if she cant handle you being you, maybe you should find someone who can. I know, its hard to give up the coochie when its there and steady, and maybe smoking hot, but, live a slave to her, or be your own man....your choice. can you handle being at work and not wanting to go home cuz you dont want to fight with the ol lady over stupid shit that only matters in her own mind? more power to ya if you think you can handle that shit for the rest of your life.

And if you think its not gonna be for the rest of your life, maybe you should think twice about the marriage.....


Good luck to ya....

Dude, drop that bitch like she's hot. You'll also have to kill her, can't leave a loose thread like that around. Good luck!

lmao dude.... no matter how true it is......

It's easy for us all to say leave her, but do whatever makes you happier man.... If you love her, explain and try to maybe compromise....

2 things to consider, 1st can you go the rest of your life without smoking (or growing)
2nd, what else is she going to expect you to change for her? It never stops with the first thing if she gets her way.
Turn the tables, make her know that you don't need her and if she wants to leave she knows where the door is........

smokey mcsmokester said:

It's easy for us all to say leave her, but do whatever makes you happier man.... If you love her, explain and try to maybe compromise....

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Yea sorry, but drop her. I've been growing for almost a year now and although my lady gets tired of the smell and space it takes up and I still gotta hear about it, it's worth it... (she don't smoke weed or grow). She's happy as hell that I don't spend 300 an oz anymore. As long as it keeps me happy and from spending money she could be spending, that keeps her happy.

Do what you gotta do, but keep growing my friend...

I vote KILL THE BITCH! lol j/k. But post #4 is pectectly said. Fuck that ho.

there is no compromise...............................

I am glad I'm not in your shoes.

Let me just say that if you are having a hard time deciding,then you should not be marrying this woman.....
Having said that,the rest answers itself...

wayno30 said:

there is no compromise...............................

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Sandbagger said:

I am glad I'm not in your shoes.

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Harsh... But true...

SO very true...

Guerilla grow and don't tell her..

she is mad that you give more time to the growing girls than her. I have had 2 women in my ten yrs of the hobby that made me choose......and im still smokin.

compromise? yeah sure, hit the gym bitch or get out......



sorry that was mean, but it made me laugh, so it stays hahahah

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Nobody can make anyone do what they want, has to be something that You want to change.... not her! or anyone....
Why do women do this to Men...if she knew you smoke/grew and did not have a problem with it up til now...TOO BAD ...that's her problem not yours.
But seriously.... do what makes You Happy...and she should support that, as that's what Women like, for us to be supportive too...Two way street here... If it's something that you like and enjoy ...than that's That! Just have to work it out with her through discussion.... and she should see your side if not...It's not meant to be! Peace.

Might as well do what she wants. If you couldn't make the choice on your own and needed to even ask anyone, then you need someone like that. It isn't even what she is asking of you. Any partner gives you an ultimatum of this or that, the first thought or action is to do what you want. Tell her she needs to start growing and smoking or it's you. Just turn the tables to show her how stupid it is.