Padawanbater2
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My man kevin nailed it on post #10
Home-wreckers.
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tip top toker
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My point had nothing to do with him doing the right thing, it had to do with possible reason he might cheat in the first place, morality of his actions aside.
So by you stating that your two previous breakups were your doing, are you simply meaning he did something wrong so you broke up because of him, or did you mean that by your doing you were the cause? I don't know you, all i'm saying is that when someone cheats on you there is often a reason for it, and as i said, up and reading texts and such, if i'd worked out that my girl had been doing that i'd throw her out the door for being so disrespectful. Simply put this could be because of you, not just him or her doing as they do, only you or he can answer that one. Why not talk to your sister about this who might know more of the dynamics and of both your personalities instead of a bunch of strangers.
Justin00
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yes thats what you do if you are a self centered coward. and anyone arrogant enough to place there own satisfaction that far above everyone else's (there child included), deserves little more than a short drop and quick stop. I am not advocating myself as judge jury and executioner i am simply stating my opinion, the world can do with far far less of those ppl as far as i'm concerned.
Morgan Lynn
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Good question.
I can't talk to her. If you knew her you'd know why.
Friends have big mouths.
Sometimes it is best to get an unbiased opinion from strangers.
Justin00
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I do not mean this to corrupt your cause, but we are in fact not unbiased, we got a story told from your view point. sure we don't know you personally but many of us, i use the term us liberally, may already have some sort of pre-disposition toward you biased on your posts on this forum or your profile picture, as you are a very attractive female, and such things, in the presence of anonymity, often lead us the offer rather extreme reactions.
Morgan Lynn
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You're right.
stuckonsticky
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If you trust him your good to go..if not then prepare for misery..some people are evil. .She may not care she's wrecking a home..just trust.your man...i have a very pretty girlfriend and if i fought over every dude that said something i would be fighting every day..she gets pissed Im not jelouse but i told her the day i have to be is the day Im gone
Corso312
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he is not telling you everything, i am sure he banged her and tells her he is going to leave you...your beef is with your man not the whore
Justin00
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in response to your question, the only time i have ever had an issue with my significant other being harassed by a member of the opposite sex. I dealt with it with a face to face confrontation, granted my situation was slightly different because at the time i did not know she was retuning the affection he was directing toward her but its still somewhat similar. I later found out she was a pretty flirty person who would flirt back even if she had no intention of anything more, but i can understand how some ppl don't know where to draw the line.
I went to where he worked, yup right to the middle of walmart. if my personal life is not off limits then neither is his, i'll bring it right into his house. I walked up to him and told him "you and I have a problem, we can deal with here or we can go outside and talk about it." well as you can imagine placed in a situation like this most ppl do not react with a cool level head. he began mouthing off at me and finished by pointing out that he was at work. i told him that we had something to discuss and if he was not able to make time for me i would find his boss and ask for him to be excused for a short time. he at that point felt it was a good idea to push me and threaten my life. he then took a swing at me, im not the biggest guy in the world at only 6'1 190lbs but im also a amateur golden gloves boxer, sooo i proceeded to give him a fairly respectable beating without inflicting any serious injuries. I also made a fairly decent mess of the section of walmart. I chose the location and time for a number of reasons, one i went into his place, somewhere he did want to see me making it very easy to provoke him, 2 i knew he would not be armed or have "his boyz", 3 there were many many witnesses to give an accurate account of what happened, and 4th i showed him what it felt like to have something "taken" from you, as he was almost immediately fired from his job.
not sure if that provides any help with your situation but its something to think about.
I went to where he worked, yup right to the middle of walmart. if my personal life is not off limits then neither is his, i'll bring it right into his house. I walked up to him and told him "you and I have a problem, we can deal with here or we can go outside and talk about it." well as you can imagine placed in a situation like this most ppl do not react with a cool level head. he began mouthing off at me and finished by pointing out that he was at work. i told him that we had something to discuss and if he was not able to make time for me i would find his boss and ask for him to be excused for a short time. he at that point felt it was a good idea to push me and threaten my life. he then took a swing at me, im not the biggest guy in the world at only 6'1 190lbs but im also a amateur golden gloves boxer, sooo i proceeded to give him a fairly respectable beating without inflicting any serious injuries. I also made a fairly decent mess of the section of walmart. I chose the location and time for a number of reasons, one i went into his place, somewhere he did want to see me making it very easy to provoke him, 2 i knew he would not be armed or have "his boyz", 3 there were many many witnesses to give an accurate account of what happened, and 4th i showed him what it felt like to have something "taken" from you, as he was almost immediately fired from his job.
not sure if that provides any help with your situation but its something to think about.
Padawanbater2
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I disagree with that approach personally.
May I ask what you gained from that?
May I ask what you gained from that?
puffenuff
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Well since im a guy I'm going to reverse the roles here...
If a dude tries to seduce my lady he gets a friendly yet firm warning the first time. If the deuche tries it again, he gets the living shit kicked out of him. If my lady lets him seduce her, she gets kicked to the curb and I'm keeping my kid. She'd be allowed to visit the kid on weekends because I'm nice like that.
Justin00
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he never spoke to her again?....
it was good enough for me, and what did i do wrong? i mean i ask him to talk about it, i just did it in a way that pushed his buttons. and yeah he knew she had a boy friend, so tell me what did i do wrong there, where did i not give him a choice to make, and where did he not make the wrong one? he could have backed down and apologized at any time and he chose not to.
Padawanbater2
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I was referring to you getting violent. Yeah he crossed the line, I agree with you on that, but you validated his behavior and stooped down to his level by showing how much it bothered you and losing control to the point of physically attacking him, at his job. Up until that point I think you made all the right moves. I think you should have went to him face to face, let him know she's your girlfriend and you don't appreciate his advances. THEN, if he persists, you're warranted in taking further action. I mean, you can only say 'stop' nicely so many times, I just think you jumped the gun a bit. But who knows, I really have minimal details of the story, so maybe he did persist..
Nothing personal
Justin00
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i didn't attack him, i hit him back after he pushed me and took a swing at me, i'm sorry for not standing still and letting him hit me. and i only hit him 3 times, and only once with my right hand, and pushed him into and over a clothing rack or 2. he got a couple black eyes and a busted nose and lip, and learned a lesson in 5 mins that could have been a lot harder later in life..... always be prepared to accept the consequences of your actions.
It seems wholly appropriate when threatened with violence to respond in kind.
He responded, he did not initiate the fight.
Urca
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Let him go... he has no respect for you, or else he wouldnt have done it. Shit, it tears me up to think about the other girls I know kissed the dude that I fool around with. He told me about them. And I cant be mad, he isnt my boyfriend, but it hurts alot.
You should be wayyy more hurt than I am.
And, also, I have been the other girl in a situation, where the guy had a long term gf (5 years), but didnt tell me until I really started being into him... so we never dated, never kissed, but for months I was the go to. The one he would call if he was upset, wanted to talk to someone, be made to smile... I had no respect for his gf, until I put myself in her shoes. Then I stopped. She never found out, they're still happy together... Still makes me feel evil inside.
Leave his ass, neither one of them have respect for you
You should be wayyy more hurt than I am.
And, also, I have been the other girl in a situation, where the guy had a long term gf (5 years), but didnt tell me until I really started being into him... so we never dated, never kissed, but for months I was the go to. The one he would call if he was upset, wanted to talk to someone, be made to smile... I had no respect for his gf, until I put myself in her shoes. Then I stopped. She never found out, they're still happy together... Still makes me feel evil inside.
Leave his ass, neither one of them have respect for you
kevin
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i'm confused?, he was just getting his dick wet, your old lady was doing the cheating.
Justin00
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actually she was being flirtatious at work and he began texting and calling her of the evenings, i have no idea if she ever answered or not but its really beside the point. and yeah we broke it off not to long after that anyways. if he had gotten his dick wet he would have gotten a lot more than 3 hits. if that confuses you then i'm sorry I will gladly break it down further for you to accommodate your social infancy. I would ask that you take any further clarification to private messages so as not to over load the current topic with irrelevant posts.
smokinheavy79
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me3 liking everything makes me happy.