how much should i pay my wife?

i was thinking about my girlfriend and suppose she ends up being my wife. she has no desire to work and would prefer to stay at home and raise children. i have no problem with this. she also likes money, like most of us, and would like her fair share of my earnings. for some reason she like to keep "her" money separate from "my" money and she wants her own cut to do whatever she want to. we have discussed it recently and we both agreed it would ned to be worked out before we would get married.m in your opinion, how much should she get? how much should i get? and how much should be kept as common money/investments/retirement...etc?

When I was in that situation, we drew up a budget together and divided areas of responsibility. Once a dollar value was set, I wrote her the check each month. She placed it in her account and administered it from there. It worked well. Naturally, the check covered her end of it "plus". The "plus" was her unrestricted spending money, which was about as much as I granted myself for misc. expenses and indulgences. cn

If you made 6 thousand a month put away four thousand a month for bills and a thousand each for spending money and savings.
What ever is left from the 4 thousand put into a savings acount.
Save all your spare change you and wife and take a nice trip with the money every year

cannabineer said:

When I was in that situation, we drew up a budget together and divided areas of responsibility. Once a dollar value was set, I wrote her the check each month. She placed it in her account and administered it from there. It worked well. Naturally, the check covered her end of it "plus". The "plus" was her unrestricted spending money, which was about as much as I granted myself for misc. expenses and indulgences. cn

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would you mind sharing the percentages? no worries if you don't.

FootballFirst said:

would you mind sharing the percentages? no worries if you don't.

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I have trouble remembering. That was when i had a job and a wife. cn

FootballFirst said:

i was thinking about my girlfriend and suppose she ends up being my wife. she has no desire to work and would prefer to stay at home and raise children. i have no problem with this. she also likes money, like most of us, and would like her fair share of my earnings. for some reason she like to keep "her" money separate from "my" money and she wants her own cut to do whatever she want to. we have discussed it recently and we both agreed it would ned to be worked out before we would get married.m in your opinion, how much should she get? how much should i get? and how much should be kept as common money/investments/retirement...etc?

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How ever you decide to settle it be sure it gets settled.

Money is one topic in a relationship/marriage that will always be a topic of conversation.

it all depends on your finances. if you are just getting by then you can't give her as much. or if you are saving for a new house or car or something. it varies with every situation. i don't think you can put a percentage on it. when you start having kids and needing to save for college and pay life insurance premiums then your discretionary income will drop. figure out what you will be spending every month; then what you should be saving every month. then give her 75% of what is left over cause you won't need it anyway.

Easy all bills totalled each month. Whatevers left split it. Don't forget gas and food.

It should be based on tips.

Well as i was growing up my dad nad mum worked my mum earend alot less than my dad he used to give my mum some of his wage but it was never enuf and he spent the rest down the pub/bar.

Some days i had to go without school meals and never had nice clothes but that was how they chose to live and bring me up.

But me i don't even know my pin number for my bank acount i give all my wages to my wife that way i know we have every thing we need and all the bills are payed.

If i need any thing i just ask my wife if we have enuf cash but if we don't the hay as long as my wife and kids have food in there bellys and a roof over there heads then i have been a good husband/father.

Don't get me wrong i am not under the thumb i work for my family not for myself as i don't want my family to have the life i had but thats just me.

My wife works, I don't. We share a bank account. Why does either need a set amount of excess money that doesn't have to be explained to the other? You're thinking about getting married, don't you talk about and share everything anyways? I can go to the bank website and see what has been spent and so can she. Do we ask each other why we took cash out of the atm, Nope we don't! I can go spend money on what ever I want and so can she. We are both responsible adults that know our bills have to be met and we trust each other. I could pull 100 out of the account right now and burn it, the wife would never question where the money went, she would just assume I spent it on something I wanted or needed. Why does there have to be a set amount?

Good luck dude!

NoGutsGrower said:

My wife works, I don't. We share a bank account. Why does either need a set amount of excess money that doesn't have to be explained to the other? You're thinking about getting married, don't you talk about and share everything anyways? I can go to the bank website and see what has been spent and so can she. Do we ask each other why we took cash out of the atm, Nope we don't! I can go spend money on what ever I want and so can she. We are both responsible adults that know our bills have to be met and we trust each other. I could pull 100 out of the account right now and burn it, the wife would never question where the money went, she would just assume I spent it on something I wanted or needed. Why does there have to be a set amount?

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I'm with you man. Paying my wife sounds like an episode of doctor Phil or something.

Tell her lazy ass to get a part time job at least.
Sounds like she wants a free ride :/

FootballFirst said:

and would like her fair share of my earnings. for some reason she like to keep "her" money separate from "my" money and she wants her own cut to do whatever she want to.

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Her fair share is not having to have a job, food in her mouth a roof over her head and being able to spend as needed or wanted, a set amount every month that she never has to explain??? Why? What does she need to spend this money on if she is a stay at home mom? Why cant she just say I bought a new necklace or I went to dinner with the ladies? Think about it... Why does she need secret money? If it's for drugs wouldn't you want her to share?

If she does not work why does she have her own bank account? Joint accounts exist for people in relationships. I'm sorry but I lived with a man who I supported for 3 years, we had an account together until he started working, then he got his own checking account for deposits, we both transfered all money for bills and groceries into the joint account plus half of what was left into the joint savings accounT, then we kept the rest in our personal account to spent on gas, smokes ect. When we were together we used the joint account otherwise u spend what u earned.

april said:

If she does not work why does she have her own bank account? Joint accounts exist for people in relationships. I'm sorry but I lived with a man who I supported for 3 years, we had an account together until he started working, then he got his own checking account for deposits, we both transfered all money for bills and groceries into the joint account plus half of what was left into the joint savings accounT, then we kept the rest in our personal account to spent on gas, smokes ect. When we were together we used the joint account otherwise u spend what u earned.

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I'm glad a woman joined this one! Thats exactly what suze oreman says to do!
http://www.suzeorman.com/

10-15% is customary for a server.

lokie said:

How ever you decide to settle it be sure it gets settled.

Money is one topic in a relationship/marriage that will always be a topic of conversation.

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right now, we have an agreement that in our relationship she doesn't withhold sex from me and i don't withhold money from her regardless of what ups and downs we are going thru in our relationship.

FootballFirst said:

right now, we have an agreement that in our relationship she doesn't withhold sex from me and i don't withhold money from her regardless of what ups and downs we are going thru in our relationship.

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Might be easier to just pay for sex