Love, Live Advice. Please Help

TreeDweller79

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Yesterday my girlfriend of seven years left me and is moving out. She says if I did not marry her in the last 7 years I was not going to. We had a vacation planned for next month and I was seriously thinking about getting her a ring. Now she is gone and I can't stop thinking about her leaving me and have not slept or ate in 40 hours. I am very upset about this but not as much as I think I should be if this makes sense? I am still kinda in shock about it but also slightly excited about being single. At the same time I would probably marry her now if given a chance.

Lately things havent been going so great between us but just walking away from it blows my mind. Should I just be happy we are not married and I get to keep my house and my stuff?

Also no amount of smoking is helping me at all. At least not the stuff I get (brick), and I don't drink anymore.

I think what holds me back is that there is a 50% chance she has Huningtons disease which half the people in her family die from. Potentially allowing me in the future to outlive my own wife and kids. Am I just a shallow asshole What do I do?

Any help is greatly appreciated. I am 29 she is 25 and I don't really have any friends anymore we moved around a lot. :-?
 

We Love 1

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Well I hope You do whatever is best.

I had a similar situation happen to Me in the past year. It might be hard to stop thinking about her in the begginng but if its not meant to be its not meant to be.

The best thing You can do is get a membership to the gym, work out as much as You can and get jacked.

After Your in the best shape of Your life than date as many girls as You want. The more You work out the more girls will be attracted to You and the better Your life will be.

Love Yourself first and have fun. And stop buying brick weed and start growing some killer buds. I hope I helped brother man!

~PEACE~

:D
 

Nighttime

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If you rush your marriage you are setting yourself up for problems down the road. She sounds insecure because she NEEEEEDED you to marry her. Don't ever lose sight of the fact that you are yourself and in order to be happy for the rest of your life you will need to continue to be yourself for the rest of your life. Can you be yourself and married with her?
 

TreeDweller79

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If you rush your marriage you are setting yourself up for problems down the road. She sounds insecure because she NEEEEEDED you to marry her. Don't ever lose sight of the fact that you are yourself and in order to be happy for the rest of your life you will need to continue to be yourself for the rest of your life. Can you be yourself and married with her?
I thought I could be myself with her but I was myself ans she left. I guess the question is how do you know if its the one or not?
 

bongedman929

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if you are willing to say you love her and would give up your life so that she could live then you know she is the one( you also kinda just know if she is the one) but that sucks and who cares if she has huntingtons diesease or not sure it might kill her but those years you do have with her will be remembered and certainly not forgot, its kinda like adopting a sick kid you try to make there last years the greastest ones they have ever had. hope things work out for you peace
 

OregonMeds

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Women have that biological clock thing and if she's looking at huntingtons too as a possibility there's no wonder she'd leave after seven years. It could be that a lot of the problems in the relationship related to her being unfilfilled that way. Women need to have kids, it's not a want thing.

If you love her, you'll go get a ring and find her and set things right. Then you'll devote your life to making her's as good as you can regardless of how long you may have her. If you can't do all this, let her move on.
 

Babs34

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Um, hello......DUDE. I'm trying to weigh this one out without being too judgemental. Seven years? Oh Lord, how to even remotely address this one.....and wth I even am boggles my mind. Yo, Nightime....she left him, not vice verca. And not to be a bitch in responding, but you DID ask. Your words verbatum---Lately things havent been going so great between us but just walking away from it blows my mind. Should I just be happy we are not married and I get to keep my house and my stuff?

Sorry, but just have to speak the truth and be blunt (as I can't help but be anything but)---completely, utterly shallow---along with the advice some fellow "stoners" have given you. <<<Cough>>> E.G.---The best thing You can do is get a membership to the gym, work out as much as You can and get jacked.

After Your in the best shape of Your life than date as many girls as You want. The more You work out the more girls will be attracted to You and the better Your life will be. I'm LMAO off at that comment......no guy ever grabbed my attention because he had great pecs...just know I had my options open babe. Yet, if you are a magnet for shallow women, go for it..it's your life.
(Hello!!! Your name is anything BUT Jesus.)

Now, moving along. You are not going to numb your need to be around her. You have a choice to make. By writing it off, even temporarily, that she has a disease that runs in her family....and it just as well suits you to "move along" answers any questions you may have. You are in no way in any position to commit to her...period, point blank. When you find yourself writing off your desire to move on one way or the other and use her 50% of getting the disease as an excuse.....there you have your answer. You don't, nor have you ever TRULY loved. Did the thought ever occur to you that you may just have a 50% chance of being in a car accident tommorow that renders you helpless for eternity?

Again, "Jesus is my name"....I know this isn't a religious form, but truly.....you should be ashamed for even taking such a name and posting what you have. A casual f*^k does not make a fullfillment of the soul...no matter how disengaged one might be from morality.

Tree, you definitely have a decision to make. Regardless of your choice, I would only suggest you be wise enough to decipher for what reason you make it. Do you really love her? Or, do you really just NEED her? My guess from the little you posted is that you are ready to just move on with the ole mighty wise words from "Jesus himself" and take a path that grants you freedom to be all about you. If so, stick with it.....otherwise you will only hurt both her and the children you may bring into this world.

For the record, no amount of weed, alcohol or sex will numb the reality of what makes the human soul tick.
 

poplars

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Um, hello......DUDE. I'm trying to weigh this one out without being too judgemental. Seven years? Oh Lord, how to even remotely address this one.....and wth I even am boggles my mind. Yo, Nightime....she left him, not vice verca. And not to be a bitch in responding, but you DID ask. Your words verbatum---Lately things havent been going so great between us but just walking away from it blows my mind. Should I just be happy we are not married and I get to keep my house and my stuff?

Sorry, but just have to speak the truth and be blunt (as I can't help but be anything but)---completely, utterly shallow---along with the advice some fellow "stoners" have given you. <<<Cough>>> E.G.---The best thing You can do is get a membership to the gym, work out as much as You can and get jacked.

After Your in the best shape of Your life than date as many girls as You want. The more You work out the more girls will be attracted to You and the better Your life will be. I'm LMAO off at that comment......no guy ever grabbed my attention because he had great pecs...just know I had my options open babe. Yet, if you are a magnet for shallow women, go for it..it's your life.
(Hello!!! Your name is anything BUT Jesus.)

Now, moving along. You are not going to numb your need to be around her. You have a choice to make. By writing it off, even temporarily, that she has a disease that runs in her family....and it just as well suits you to "move along" answers any questions you may have. You are in no way in any position to commit to her...period, point blank. When you find yourself writing off your desire to move on one way or the other and use her 50% of getting the disease as an excuse.....there you have your answer. You don't, nor have you ever TRULY loved. Did the thought ever occur to you that you may just have a 50% chance of being in a car accident tommorow that renders you helpless for eternity?

Again, "Jesus is my name"....I know this isn't a religious form, but truly.....you should be ashamed for even taking such a name and posting what you have. A casual f*^k does not make a fullfillment of the soul...no matter how disengaged one might be from morality.

Tree, you definitely have a decision to make. Regardless of your choice, I would only suggest you be wise enough to decipher for what reason you make it. Do you really love her? Or, do you really just NEED her? My guess from the little you posted is that you are ready to just move on with the ole mighty wise words from "Jesus himself" and take a path that grants you freedom to be all about you. If so, stick with it.....otherwise you will only hurt both her and the children you may bring into this world.

For the record, no amount of weed, alcohol or sex will numb the reality of what makes the human soul tick.
wow, so you and we love 1 are like a religious tag-team huh?

to the OP getting into other things that don't remind you of her help. start trying to feel better every day and eventually it will happen. our minds work habitually, if you're habitually sad you will be sad until you break the habit. it takes around a month to break a habit so thats at minimum how long you have till you have some lasting happiness.

taking a t-break on weed may help too, or if you just have nothing but shit weed maybe start a grow, it will get you better bud and get your mind off of her.
 

Babs34

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<<Shudder>> I just looked into a certain someones avatar and they are in the thread "Should stupid people be allowed to breed?" This same "person" holds a link to spirituality.....imgagine that!!!
 

We Love 1

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Babs34 is out to get Me. HAHA :lol:

Sorry for offending You miss.

And I don't believe there is anything wrong with getting in shape and having fun while being single. If there is than let Me know.

~PEACE~

:D
 

TreeDweller79

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Babs34 is out to get Me. HAHA :lol:

Sorry for offending You miss.

And I don't believe there is anything wrong with getting in shape and having fun while being single. If there is than let Me know.

~PEACE~

:D
What happens if I get a ring and its too late I have already missed the boat? I doubt if I can take it back. The possible sickness is not a huge factor for me. I had just been told my whole life by people not to get married it wasn't worth it. Plus all the stories of people losing everything because the wife left is horrifying to me. Its always in the back of my mind. In the same breath I don't really look forward to a future without her in it. Should I give her some space for a couple of days or go pleading instantly? I have a bad feeling like it probably doesn't matter now.
 

We Love 1

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What happens if I get a ring and its too late I have already missed the boat? I doubt if I can take it back. The possible sickness is not a huge factor for me. I had just been told my whole life by people not to get married it wasn't worth it. Plus all the stories of people losing everything because the wife left is horrifying to me. Its always in the back of my mind. In the same breath I don't really look forward to a future without her in it. Should I give her some space for a couple of days or go pleading instantly? I have a bad feeling like it probably doesn't matter now.
Give her a call and talk to her profoundly. Tell her how You feel and take it from there. Just try and be honest.

I'm just concerned about the fact that she left You so abruptly. Seemingly without a warming.

I wouldn't buy any rings until You talk to her and tell her Your needs and listen to hers, and take it from there.

Worse case scenerio, get in the best shape You can and You'll hopefully find more (and better) fish in the sea.

~PEACE~
 

TreeDweller79

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Give her a call and talk to her profoundly. Tell her how You feel and take it from there. Just try and be honest.

I'm just concerned about the fact that she left You so abruptly. Seemingly without a warming.

I wouldn't buy any rings until You talk to her and tell her Your needs and listen to hers, and take it from there.

Worse case scenerio, get in the best shape You can and You'll hopefully find more (and better) fish in the sea.

~PEACE~
Is there any chance a jewler would sell me one and agree that f I get denied I can take it back? I would know pretty quick I imagine. Wonder if that has ever happened before.
 

TreeDweller79

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Is there any chance a jewler would sell me one and agree that f I get denied I can take it back? I would know pretty quick I imagine. Wonder if that has ever happened before.
Not that I think there is a jewler on here but just anyoner ever dealt with or worked with a jewler? Seems like its a good gamble for them.
 

Babs34

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What happens if I get a ring and its too late I have already missed the boat? I doubt if I can take it back. The possible sickness is not a huge factor for me. I had just been told my whole life by people not to get married it wasn't worth it. Plus all the stories of people losing everything because the wife left is horrifying to me. Its always in the back of my mind. In the same breath I don't really look forward to a future without her in it. Should I give her some space for a couple of days or go pleading instantly? I have a bad feeling like it probably doesn't matter now.
I'm not out to get you...don't be silly. You're typing to someone who used to be NEUROTIC about working out, ok? LOL, I put men to shame in the gym. That's not the issue. Working out is great for the body and mind. Personally, I could just never stand the guy who so obviously was more caught up in pumping up his body than life itself---you know, the kind who looks more at himself in the mirror that what is around him. That kind never catches on to anything in life, let alone a good woman.
That being said, I don't apologize for being REAL. God doesn't ok a bunch of whoremongers. Sex was created to be a very beautiful thing between ONE man and ONE woman. The "beauty" of it all hasn't a thing to do with the perfect pecs, abs, biceps, triceps, ETC. <<shrugging my shoulders>> Why am I even bothering to post this to a man? Ha.
Anyway, it's too hard to analyze all of this. Ask yourself, "Can I imagine my life without her?" Now, keep on imagining it forever. If the answer is no, you'd better go get that ring ASAP. My guess is this isn't the first time she's clued you in to her need to be committed to.
Forget about the money. If she refuses the ring, that's a complete non-issue. Of course they will take it back.
One more piece of advice. Unless you know what she likes, take her along with you. Personally, I don't care for jewlry at all.....but with some females, you never know.
 

TreeDweller79

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I'm not out to get you...don't be silly. You're typing to someone who used to be NEUROTIC about working out, ok? LOL, I put men to shame in the gym. That's not the issue. Working out is great for the body and mind. Personally, I could just never stand the guy who so obviously was more caught up in pumping up his body than life itself---you know, the kind who looks more at himself in the mirror that what is around him. That kind never catches on to anything in life, let alone a good woman.
That being said, I don't apologize for being REAL. God doesn't ok a bunch of whoremongers. Sex was created to be a very beautiful thing between ONE man and ONE woman. The "beauty" of it all hasn't a thing to do with the perfect pecs, abs, biceps, triceps, ETC. <<shrugging my shoulders>> Why am I even bothering to post this to a man? Ha.
Anyway, it's too hard to analyze all of this. Ask yourself, "Can I imagine my life without her?" Now, keep on imagining it forever. If the answer is no, you'd better go get that ring ASAP. My guess is this isn't the first time she's clued you in to her need to be committed to.
Forget about the money. If she refuses the ring, that's a complete non-issue. Of course they will take it back.
One more piece of advice. Unless you know what she likes, take her along with you. Personally, I don't care for jewlry at all.....but with some females, you never know.
Yeah I cannot picture my future without her, I went to get a ring this morning and my truck died in the driveway. I have to cash my tax check first so its prob gonna be monday when I can get it. I called her moms to talk to her and she wasn't there, then I started talking to her mom and her mom was crying and telling me how much she loved me. She also told me that my chick told her she feels like someone died. I hope its not to late I feel like there is pieces of me missing.
 
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