New girlfriend upset and I am just lost!... Help me?

HookdOnChronics

HookdOnChronics

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Alright my peeps I need some input.

So here's the story:
Little bit of background first, I met this girl abour 4 weeks ago, she came over to play beerpong at mine for a party and I ended getting her number. Well we've been talking ever since, basically dating without a title. We were 'oficial' I guess you would say May 1st.

Ok so the first time she came over to hang out, the next day after that party, we had a good time and ended up enjoying each other's company in the bed room. Well we finished and went out to smoke a cigarette and while we were she looks at this certificate of excellence hanging on the wall right next to her. She ask's what it's for and I told her is was for an epic roller-blading accident.

Now here's where things start to get..... ehhhhh iffy. lol
Keep in mind this was the first time we had sex, and literally just finished like 5 minutes ago. So the certificate of excellence wasn't for an epic roller blading accident. It was actually because I hooked up with some randome chick from the bar like a year and a half ago and fucked her in the snow in the middle of the street.

Not done yet, so don't judge me!!!
The ONLY reason I didn't tell her the truth in the first place is because we had literally JUST had sex for the first time, and how would it come off if I said 'Oh yea, that's for me fuckin some bitch who I don't even remember her name in the snow in the middle of the street' I mean I just couldn't do that... I'd feel like such a loser!...

Ok so summing up.
We were talking last night, and I felt bad for lieing to her about the whole thing. And she had been asking me some questions so I asked her and told her the truth about that certificate. I haven't told this girl a SINGLE lie except for that one time. She has asked some of the most personal questions I have ever answered and I have no problem telling her the complete and 100% truth! Because I hate lies! HATE THEM! The only reason this happened is because of the immediate situation that I was in. Well after I told her last night I said I'd take it down and throw it away, I don't have a problem with that. And I'm sorry that I lied and it hasn't, and won't happen again! She said that she doesn't care about what happened, and she doesn't have a problem at all with me leaving the certificate up. She's nopt mad at me for that, she's mad at me because I lied to her. She HATES lieing!...

Well I try to fix things and text her after hours of conversation..... All of the sudden every text I try to send says 'message failed' and I've tried to call her probably 4 times just to see what's up and every time I get a busy signal. I can still call other people and text other people, just not her. And I want to think that her phone is just fucking up, but C'mon what are the chances of that happening right then at that exact moment in time when she was upset about me lieing to her. I'm pretty sure she blocked my number and I have NO way of getting in touch with her now..........


SO my fellow RIUers..... I need some insite into my situation. I am so confused right now I have no FUCKING idea what to do!.....

~It's the Hookd!
 
MrSoloDolo

MrSoloDolo

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I think she needs time to calm down and assess the situation. She would have done the same thing (lied right away) or else she would have looked slutty- and you didn't want to look like some kind of man-whore.
When you get a chance to talk to her, tell her that you were embarrassed and you only did it so you wouldn't feel like an asshole- if you bring up your feelings then she should be understanding.

On another note- this isn't that big of a deal, so her reaction is a little bit much. How old is she? Maybe she isn't mature and that's why her reaction was, ehhh... iffy?
 
Nitegazer

Nitegazer

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Well,

One thing about liars is that they tend to sound desperate-- so, chill out! She isn't getting back to you because either 1- she decided she doesn't want to get over it and is gone or 2- she wants a bit of space to think it through.

You already talked with her for hours about it, so you have probably already said everything there is to say. Pushing too hard will just scare her off.
 
FarmerNinja

FarmerNinja

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mrsolo has a good point. let her think it over and if she really likes you then she will call you. if she doesn't then she's not worth your time bro bottom line.

not much you can do now but sit back and roll up a fatty and try not to think about it. i wouldn't sweat it man. any girl who wouldn't understand that circumstance will give you more problems in the future trust me..
 
westhamm1132

westhamm1132

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haha a fukin epic roller blade accident you joaker how did she even beleve that.

anyway i wouldnt give her time beacuse girls get bored easy and if you have only just met not long ago she will probs just move on giveing them time is only good for peope who no you and what your like you have given this girl the wrong impression of you so now she thinks your a prick and wont talk to you again unless you prove diffrent go to her house with flours and chocolates or sum romantic shit and dont give in (only worth it if shes fit tho tho point if shes nothing specal haha)
 
brasmith

brasmith

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From a girls perspective: Why even have the trophy hanging on your wall in the first place....how old are you. Women do not keep trophys of their conquests....but men for some reason do. Women do not like it at all! When women feel that men are saving the fuck memories on the wall or book shelves of their house they get the hell out, because that woman now has taken backseat to the trophy on the wall. That is how we see it. You will not hear from her again. She has moved on and is angry so you might as well move on too.
 
brasmith

brasmith

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Hey bloom
He would have to be able to get ahold of her first. She's done with his "slong"
 
bobbyhopefeild

bobbyhopefeild

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well from a girls perspective....
shes not necessarily immature, thats simplifying her personality too much to think that she got really mad in a stupid way. I'll bet thats because she has not particularily high self esteem and is very wary of people that appear to be something their not (of which thee are many). You shouldnt blame her for feeling scared of getting wrapped up in someone thats a liar (im not saying you are, it was just communication breakdown, im just trying to give you her perspective). Although it wasnt a big lie at all, i think it was just wrong words at the wrong time. she had probably just decided to trust you (sexy tiime!!) and you told her that you had lied about sum certificate for being a man-slag . This made her think of a few things
1.you lied(so shes thinking 'oh shit, can i actually trust this guy now i thought i was sure' and probably over-thinking it)
2. wayyy too early to talk about ex's or even sum girl that you poked in the snow, she wants to feel like shes the center of your affections now and the cert probably just made her feel very uncertain.
3. it casts doubt on other things you hav said

basically if this girls worth chasing , go chase her, she obviously does like you otherwise you wouldnt be able to provoke such strong feelings even if it is anger. like some1 said ealier, go to her house and plead your case (sexy tiiime!)
hope that helps
 
HookdOnChronics

HookdOnChronics

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I just want to say thanks to each and every one of you first off!

Ok, so no I have not been on this side of the one night stand before. But I don't think that's the case. Cuz before she found out I lied. She was texting me, all day, every day. Coming over at LEAST 3 times a week to uh 'hang out' for lack of a better term, in my bedroom. If you could only see some of the text's she's sent me..... I'm pretty sure she's not at all using me for sex.....

And I just really really didn't want to look like a man-whore, I would have felt like SUCH an asshole! That's the whole reason I lied in the first place... Think about what if it was me in her shoes, we just fucked, and went to smoke a cig at her place, and I see her certificate, do you think she would straight up tell me to my face "Oh yea that was from me fucking another dude in the street while it was snowing"... YEA RIGHT!... I think she would have lied to in that situation..... I just feel really really bad about it...

Oh I'm 22 and she's 20 BTW

lol, BloomBrothers, I'm pretty positive my penis is not the problem here..... She REALLY has enjoyed that..... :)

I know, the trophy is stupid! One of my friends wrote it up after he found out what happened with me that night. It wasn't ME who put the certificate on the wall... I guess I could have taken it down tho... The thing is, I mean she's a crazy girl that LOVES sex, and has told me about some of her past fuck's that she's had. It doesn't bother me, I know she had a life before me and had sex before she knew me! We're humans, we enjoy it! That's fine! I told her I have absolutely no problem throwing that stupid fucking certificate in the trash! But she said that is not at all what made her mad, It's the fact that I lied about. And I wouldn't have lied about it if we didn't just have sex 5 min's before she asked me. What do you think she would have thought about me then?..... MAN-WHORE

I wish she would just talk to me about this in person. She has only come to my house. I know the appt complex she lives in, but don't know what appt it is. I've never been to her place. So I can't really just stop by to talk about it. I think she just blew things WAY out of proportion because we were fucking texting... If she would just TALK to me and let me explain things to her in person I think she would realize that it's not as bad as she's making it seem..... I dunno tho.....
 
NLNo5

NLNo5

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Dood,

It's a part of the past don't let it worry you, javetok and relax.

Leave it alone for a few more days, don't go chasing her just yet.

It sounds like you to really hit it off so I'm guessing she aint met somebody better yet and prolly wont within the next few days. Fuck I'd wait a week or so so she knows your cool with your kwan and have a certain zen about life. Then bump into her and ask her how she's doing, pretend like you just met her again, and don't appologize or bring up the incident ever ever again until the fucking sun freezed.

Actions speak way louder than words so just act like you love her man and don't tell her you love her.

Peace bro.

By the way, you're a fine fellow, not a slime ball like some have suggested. I always tell myself that everyone has to shit and wipe their ass and no ones shit smells like roses.
 
CLOSETGROWTH

CLOSETGROWTH

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HookdOnChronics said:
Alright my peeps I need some input.

So here's the story:
Little bit of background first, I met this girl abour 4 weeks ago, she came over to play beerpong at mine for a party and I ended getting her number. Well we've been talking ever since, basically dating without a title. We were 'oficial' I guess you would say May 1st.

Ok so the first time she came over to hang out, the next day after that party, we had a good time and ended up enjoying each other's company in the bed room. Well we finished and went out to smoke a cigarette and while we were she looks at this certificate of excellence hanging on the wall right next to her. She ask's what it's for and I told her is was for an epic roller-blading accident.

Now here's where things start to get..... ehhhhh iffy. lol
Keep in mind this was the first time we had sex, and literally just finished like 5 minutes ago. So the certificate of excellence wasn't for an epic roller blading accident. It was actually because I hooked up with some randome chick from the bar like a year and a half ago and fucked her in the snow in the middle of the street.

Not done yet, so don't judge me!!!
The ONLY reason I didn't tell her the truth in the first place is because we had literally JUST had sex for the first time, and how would it come off if I said 'Oh yea, that's for me fuckin some bitch who I don't even remember her name in the snow in the middle of the street' I mean I just couldn't do that... I'd feel like such a loser!...

Ok so summing up.
We were talking last night, and I felt bad for lieing to her about the whole thing. And she had been asking me some questions so I asked her and told her the truth about that certificate. I haven't told this girl a SINGLE lie except for that one time. She has asked some of the most personal questions I have ever answered and I have no problem telling her the complete and 100% truth! Because I hate lies! HATE THEM! The only reason this happened is because of the immediate situation that I was in. Well after I told her last night I said I'd take it down and throw it away, I don't have a problem with that. And I'm sorry that I lied and it hasn't, and won't happen again! She said that she doesn't care about what happened, and she doesn't have a problem at all with me leaving the certificate up. She's nopt mad at me for that, she's mad at me because I lied to her. She HATES lieing!...

Well I try to fix things and text her after hours of conversation..... All of the sudden every text I try to send says 'message failed' and I've tried to call her probably 4 times just to see what's up and every time I get a busy signal. I can still call other people and text other people, just not her. And I want to think that her phone is just fucking up, but C'mon what are the chances of that happening right then at that exact moment in time when she was upset about me lieing to her. I'm pretty sure she blocked my number and I have NO way of getting in touch with her now..........


SO my fellow RIUers..... I need some insite into my situation. I am so confused right now I have no FUCKING idea what to do!.....

~It's the Hookd!
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Want some good news? You cant block numbers on a cell phone... she probably didnt pay her bill.
 
HydroGirl

HydroGirl

Member
Yah like closetgrowth said... you can't block a certain number ( I used to work for a cell company)... if she was rejecting you it would go to voice mail after one ring. and 'from a girl's perspective' don't freak out about this... act cool...act like you don't care when she finally calls you (and she will)... it's not hot when a guy looses his balls over a stupid cell phone. Play hard to get a lil if you wanna keep this one... ;)
 
S

smalltownfella

Member
I can block specific numbers with Verizon.

Is the cell phone the only way you kids communicate these days? I am 43 and my girlfiend just turned 22, so I know about you and your phones lol!

You talked for 4 hours about your deepest darkest secrets and you have no idea where she lives or hangs out? Have any mutual friends? What ever happened to romance? I'd post missing persons photos on telephone poles, notes to waiters and waitresses at the local watering hole. Let the world know you are in love. Has anyone ever heard of flowers?

2 things will happen. If there is a chance, she will be back. If there is no chance, there may be a restraining order or a stalker charge.

I have always said, I love a yes, I can take a no, but I CAN'T STAND a maybe.

If you love something, let it go. If it comes back to you it's yours, if it doesn't, it never really was.

Good luck and head up. Personally, I think an certificate objectifying a woman is VERY tacky..... but I am old!
 
HookdOnChronics

HookdOnChronics

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Thankyou ALL again for all your input! I like to hear EVERYBODY's views! It's extremely helpful and I can't say how much I love this site and it's members!

THANK YOU ALL

Ok well let's slow way WAY down here! I am not in love with this girl..... I mean I have only known her for a month. I do really REALLY like her tho! More than any other girl I've dated.

It seems that 'brasmith' is out to get me or something! Easy there girl!...

I've only called her 3 times. So she won't see 500 missed calls. She knows me, and she knows who I am. She wouldn't get scared at all for me calling her a tone of times, she'd probably think it was cute. This girl is really awesome and way WAY into me from what her friends say..... She would straight laugh, IN my face, if I tried to act all cool and shit around her. She knows how I act, we are WAY past the 'gotta act cool around me bf/gf' stage. We like to laugh at each other, it's fun!

Ok so now the scary part, I talked to 2 of her friends to see if they could get a hold of her so I could find out if she's mad at me, or if her phone's just messed up..... Well apparentally NOBODY can get a hold of her, her phone is doing the same thing to everybody!.. I'm a little worried, cuz she lives with her EX, and he heard me and her hanging out last night cuz he called her for some odd reason, he's never seen me though, but he REALLY hates me I'm pretty sure. I dunno if he's the uber jealous type or what.....

I REALLY hope she's ok though.....
 
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