Lonliness

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Singlemalt

Singlemalt

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lokie said:
I enjoy my solitude.

My friends are mainly here.

Most of my irl acquaintances I tolerate just because it is said that no man is an island.

That may have some truth.

So I'll settle to be an isthmus.
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Interesting, I'm more like a peninsula. I too enjoy solitude and hermitage which comes with age, you and I are old guys; we don't know how old OP is, I suspect fairly young.
 
Just Be

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I might not agree with everything that Osho/Rajneesh did in his lifetime but these words rip right to the heart of the matter.

"Man ordinarily lives in loneliness. To avoid loneliness, he creates all kinds of relationships, friendships, organizations, political parties, religions and what not. But the basic thing is that he is very much afraid of being lonely. Loneliness is a black hole, a darkness, a frightening negative state almost like death … as if you are being swallowed by death itself. To avoid it, you run out and fall into anybody, just to hold somebody’s hand, to feel that you are not lonely… Nothing hurts more than loneliness.

But the trouble is, any relationship that arises out of the fear of being lonely is not going to be a blissful experience, because the other is also joining you out of fear. You both call it love. You are both deceiving yourself and the other. It is simply fear, and fear can never be the source of love. Only those who love are absolutely fearless; only those who love are able to be alone, joyously, whose need for the other has disappeared, who are sufficient unto themselves.

Aloneness is your nature. You were born alone, you will die alone. And you are living alone without understanding it, without being fully aware of it. You misunderstand aloneness as loneliness; it is simply a misunderstanding. You are sufficient unto yourself."

For whatever reason, that quote always reminds me of these Mad TV skits.
 
DrKiz

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guitarguy10 said:
Does anyone else live alone and have no IRL friends? How do you cope? How do you make friends, other then through video games and with my crippling social anxiety I won't go to a bar or places like that, so am I destined to just be alone for the rest of my life.
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I'm on spectrum and don't feel a need for many "friends" that aren't real friends anyways. Fortunate enough to be overlyfunctional and have a Girlfriend and lil one.

Bars aren't for us anyways homie, the people there aren't going to be your friends man, and the women you meet aren't worthy of more than 5 minutes of your time.

I have social anxiety too. Been chipping away at it with "immersion therapy". Not so easy now though with Covid. I've come to conclude my social anxiety is really just frustration with idiots and small talk.

My "Friends" are all people who share the same interests as me. Growers and such. Chatting with them online is enough for me, with the occasional smoke session in person.

Studies show high IQ people don't need friends like low IQ dimwits do. A trend you'll notice maybe now.

Where are you from man? I'm from Canada. Do you play COD? Zombies? lol

You've probably figured out by now that most people are severely flawed and useless as "friends" anyways.

I literally hope Covid mutates and indiscriminately purges 95% of the population. I'll take the 5% chance to live in peace.
 
H G Griffin

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Just Be said:
Aloneness is your nature. You were born alone, you will die alone. And you are living alone without understanding it, without being fully aware of it. You misunderstand aloneness as loneliness; it is simply a misunderstanding. You are sufficient unto yourself."
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^^^ I like this, a lot.

In my experience, solitude can be bliss.

As for finding IRL friends, it is not easy. I know in Canada it has been discussed as a serious issue. This study is eye opening:
angusreid.org

A Portrait of Social Isolation and Loneliness in Canada today - Angus Reid Institute

Intersections between objective isolation and subjective loneliness divide the population into five groups June 17, 2019 – Interpersonal connection is at the heart of all human society. As a species,
angusreid.org angusreid.org

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Personally, I'm kind of like the Pythagorean Cup. If I'm kept within my limits, I'm fine. Pushed past my capacity for sociability, I'll piss all over you and ruin your day. ;)
 
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