Girlfriend making me choose between her or weed!

I have been dating this girl for a year. I have been smoking weed for the last 14 years, but never more than on the weekends. She noticed me smoking every weekend for the last few weeks and has now cracked it and said that its her or the weed... The thing I don't get is that I cannot see it harming me at all. I do smoke on my own, but Only on the weekends. I have 2 jobs, heaps of cash, grow my own weed, barely get through an ounce in a year, am sociable and very highly qualified (I am a doctor). I just don't see what the problem and am thinking seriously of dumping her and doing weed. It's not that I don't love her, I just feel like she is being unreasonable and if I let her stop me doing this then she will remember and allways know that she can controll me for ever... Anyone else have any advice? I don't know what to do!!!

Why do you have 2 jobs and grow weed if you're a doctor?

Any person who gives you ultimatums is not healthy for you.

why not? I would rather grow weed than buy off the street... It's a fun hobby. I have 2 jobs for extra money, it really doesn't matter, just saying that my life is in order.

Tell her all those things, even if she already knows it.
You got a good education, good jobs and you smoke on your own time only in the weekends. You don't got connections to the illegal part of it since you grow your own. That you've been doing this in 14 years without a problem and this is who you are. If she can't accept you as you is, then she will never be pleased. If she can't accept this MINOR thing about you, how do you think it will be in the future? She will try to change YOU and YOUR behavior every time you don't fit in HER mold of a perfect boyfriend, and that's not a girl you would want to be with.

I quit letting people in my life tell me what to do. I am single now and happier than ever. If you're really a Doc, you should have no problem finding a woman who is not controlling.

My ex wife was stunning. I just got used to guys gawking at her. But what a fucking bitch! Show me a hot woman and I will show you a man who is sick of her shit.

Tired of your life? Let her run it. First your vices, then friends, I say RUN!
I'd be looking into some type pre-nuptial should it come to that.

I had a lady give me this ultimatum once , I cant even remember that bitches name now lol

Tell her you will stop once she stops getting periods.. It's just a part of you she has to accept

bye bye girlfriend.

everyone says ditch the chick. its been a year and no like weed. leave her. making you choose to ditch a plant you barely consume. people are crazy, had i never listened to people when i was 14 about the cons of weed i would be living in a better situation.

If she wants to change you it's best to just change your relationship status.

You didn't mention her reasoning for wanting you to quit. Did she actually make valid points? You are a practicing MD?

i had a girl who insinuated it once, i gave it up and most of my ideals for the sake of her. and i did thing i never thought i would do.

It's only the beginning, find someone new.

Show her the door or spend the rest of your relationship under the thumb basically

doesn't sound like a good match - if you let her stop you from doing something you believe in now, what will be next? Better to find someone who accepts you for who you are, or might want to partake with you. Don't settle or sell yourself short - life is way too short to waste time with people who don't understand you or get you.

ManWithTheHex said:

Tell her all those things, even if she already knows it.
You got a good education, good jobs and you smoke on your own time only in the weekends. You don't got connections to the illegal part of it since you grow your own. That you've been doing this in 14 years without a problem and this is who you are. If she can't accept you as you is, then she will never be pleased. If she can't accept this MINOR thing about you, how do you think it will be in the future? She will try to change YOU and YOUR behavior every time you don't fit in HER mold of a perfect boyfriend, and that's not a girl you would want to be with.

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I agree with Hex on this one.

She’s controlling and manipulating…
I’ll bet she’s called or texted you many times with a:
“What are you doing…?” A controller asks that way…
A Chill person asks this way:
“How’s your day going?”
I am sure there have been many signs of control from her in the past…
That you’ve chosen to ignore…
This is the first year of her control over you…
Some men, like it… Others like me would rather live alone than being treated like a fourteen year old…
Say this to her:
“I will gladly give up pot, if you give up:
The gym [no more Shawn your personal trainer], the fifi at the nail shop, Frankie at the salon, your favorite red dress, your I-phone [Gen 7], your car AC, your vibrator, Wine, Book reading, needle point, and whatever else pops into your mind …”
When you met her, you were looking for a good women…
And when the door hits her controlling ass on the way out, you will be where you were before you met her… and you will meet another, better woman…
Good Luck…
Only you know what is worth what…

Long story short I quit when ex wife wanting me to. I smoke way more then you. But it was cool then she started changeing everything. I started smoking again and she was cool but she would say ya but you smoke weed to everything well now she's the ex and we were together 11 years. Not telling what to do because I don't live your life so think long in hard about it buddy.