Grief counselling for the younger crowd

After 5 years of dating, my GF died in her sleep about 2 years ago. While we were living together. Tough situation. I tried to find some kind of group grief counselling, but every one was older than me. (I'm 31). I ended up in Montreal, the city of cheap booze. Got drunk for about a year and a half. I feel a bit better now, but I haven't dated since and I feel no need to. My friends are giving me a hard time and trying to set me up on blind dates but I'm not that interested.
What the fuck should I do? I don't believe in therapy but a group situation with younger people would be good I think. People I can relate to. Has anyone else had this kind of experience? What did you do?

sounds like a rough experience man...sorry to hear that. i think maybe giving in to your friends intentions or going about it yourself to find someone else maybe? if you do end up finding someone else it'll really help take your mind off of the past. wish i had better ideas or could relate so i could help more man!

If I had to make a suggestion it would be to go out and meet some new people with no intention of getting into a relationship. Maybe not even considering it a blind date but more of a new random friendship. That might leave things feeling less pressured and who knows you might just end up meeting someone cool as hell that puts a smile on your face day and night and has a lot of similar interests. We all know we look for that in life. Don't cheat yourself out of it man.

drolove said:

sounds like a rough experience man...sorry to hear that. i think maybe giving in to your friends intentions or going about it yourself to find someone else maybe? if you do end up finding someone else it'll really help take your mind off of the past. wish i had better ideas or could relate so i could help more man!

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It's cool man. My friends all think I should at least try and go on some dates. It's not that I'm not interested in socializing, I'm just not interested in dating. I don't know why though. I feel like I'm ok to date, I just feel out of the loop a bit I guess.

Robfather said:

It's cool man. My friends all think I should at least try and go on some dates. It's not that I'm not interested in socializing, I'm just not interested in dating. I don't know why though. I feel like I'm ok to date, I just feel out of the loop a bit I guess.

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well like ismokealottaweed above said. maybe just get out to meet new people rather than dating? and you never know it might start off with being friends with someone and eventually moving on to dating. i fully understand the feeling out of the loop part. been there done that several times. i would say get out and try to meet new people and someone might come along thats really worth something. you'll never know till it happens. keeping to yourself isnt going to do anything but prolong the problem ya know?

when im by myself theres a few issues in my life that pop up in my head that i really rather forget and not think or talk about and when im with friends those things are never on my mind. find something good and get caught up in it whether it be friends or something more.

iSmokealottaweed said:

If I had to make a suggestion it would be to go out and meet some new people with no intention of getting into a relationship. Maybe not even considering it a blind date but more of a new random friendship. That might leave things feeling less pressured and who knows you might just end up meeting someone cool as hell that puts a smile on your face day and night and has a lot of similar interests. We all know we look for that in life. Don't cheat yourself out of it man.

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Maybe some female friends is the answer. I honestly didn't consider it. Just need to find someone that is down to blaze, lol. Seriously though, Thanks.

Robfather said:

Maybe some female friends is the answer. I honestly didn't consider it. Just need to find someone that is down to blaze, lol. Seriously though, Thanks.

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I'd smoke with you any time man
I agree with what they all said!

Long shot, but have you considered placing a CL ad looking for folks in your age group with similar experiences? You could start the support group! cn

cannabineer said:

Long shot, but have you considered placing a CL ad looking for folks in your age group with similar experiences? You could start the support group! cn

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That is also a really good idea. Thanks dude.

Yeah if i were you bro, i wouldn't go out on dates either if you aren't looking for a relationship. Just try to find new people to hang out with, make friends that are girls... the best way to get into a relationship anyways is to be best friends with a girl first and maybe you two will start to like each other, maybe not, either way, you've made a good friend to chill with.

Sucks bad that happened man, but just look back at all the shit you've been though... i'm sure you are a very strong man in order to deal with something like that without hurting yourself or other people in the process. If that is the case, i'm proud. Either way, go out and makes some friends. In my opinion the best way to meet new people is to get a restaurant job, waiting or cooking, whatever, you'll meet a bunch of new people and make a ton of acquaintances, and who knows, maybe even a few close friends.

Good luck man, you got this shit.

greenswag said:

I'd smoke with you any time man
I agree with what they all said!

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Might have to take you up on that one day. I'm a snowboard instructor in Whistler BC. You ever need anything, let me know. Thank-you. That actually goes for all of you. Thank-you very much. I mean it.