Partners Who Don't Partake

RetiredToker76

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I took a look at all my friends who toke and those that are in a relationship are in one where their partner smokes either as much or at least 'with' them. I on the other hand married a goody two shoes before I came out of weed retirement 3 years ago.

When I started smoking weed for the first time in our relationship, she expressed the concerns that one would expect from an American who went to public schools in the 80's and 90's during Nancy Regan's "Just Say No" bullshit and all the lies they spread about weed in those days.

A few well placed documentaries, this site, and a friend from Cali who has a medical card and she stopped being so paranoid that I'd end up in a ditch with a needle in my arm like Nancy said would happen.

After a while she did toke a couple times and to quote her, "If I want to get trashed, I think I'll just have my classic shot of Patron and a lime." I don't get it but to each their own.

After 3 years of me being a daily toker around her, she has let me get away with what I believe most women would have either divorced or tossed their men into rehab over, but she's let me grow before our child was born (she changed her mind after the baby was born and I agreed living in a crappy state) but still doesn't even blink when I toke up. Damn I love her.

Today they had their annual 'drug free workplace' lecture at her office. The first 3 years they subjected their staff to these lectures they had a lackey from personnel do it from the company manual. This year they got lazy and hired an outside specialist. He saved weed for last putting things like coke, meth, ecstasy, and then the scrip drugs first in his lecture. The contract guy had the demeanor of an ex-cop with an axe to grind according to her.

He started his part on weed with, "People think marijuana is harmless because some states now tolerate it, but I challenge you to find anyone who's life has improved because of it."

She stood up and said, "I will meet your challenge and exceeded it. In all likely hood marijuana saved my husbands life; I would call that a drastic improvement. He was told by his doctor in 2007 he'd be dead before he was 40 if he didn't drastically change his lifestyle. When presented with the drugs the doctor gave him he decided it would be better to smoke weed again than take a slew of 'psych' pills. Within a year he lost 100lbs, dropped from high risk blood pressure to normal, quit the job that was demanding 100 hours a week from him and finally pursued his dream of a graduate degree that he'd been talking about for 10 years. Top it all off he has all but completely stopped yelling about things and is much more reasonable. Sir I don't know who you've experienced in your career, but I know a lot of 'stoners' through my husband and most of them are better people than any 'sober' individual I've met, including myself."

She then stormed out of the office with the entire staff and management giving her a standing ovation. She's usually the demure quiet one so when she told me of her outburst it shocked me especially since she's kept me in the pot closet concerning anyone from her work. I don't know if anyone else has a sober spouse, but aren't they supposed to hate and leave us because we smoke weed?

Either I was a real ass when I was sober and she married a first rate jerk or I just got stupidly lucky, I'm not sure which.
 

sebastopolian

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Sound's like to me you have a great wife!!! Don't be so hard on yourself, & your lucky to have such a wonderful relationship!!! So just enjoy it!
 

Pipe Dream

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Ironically, those of us who actually use would have probably been too paranoid to speak up. I remember when my boss told me he didn't cae what we did at home as long as we weren't smoking weed at work (someone snitced on other people and my name was brought up somehow) I just played dumb like IDK man I wasn't even at lunch with tem lol. Everybody always ells me they know I'm a stoner rigt off the bat, I just don't confirm it unless I think they are too.
 

bryon209

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I am now married, but I only dated women who smoked. Not because I was scared of what they would think,
it was more along the lines of... if I have good weed all the time and hang out with girls who smoke I was likely to get more bj's
 

benny blanco

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My girl don't smoke but we party. She says she just gets super paranoid. She would rather goto the bar with a ball in her purse haha
 

ANC

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my wife also does not partake, never even been drunk, still the best one out there.
 

RetiredToker76

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How do I rep your wife???
I wish I could had seen that guys face when she went off!!!
I'll tell her she got rep points. I would have loved to have been there too, save for one problem, I've been dry for a week, which has put my attitude in the toilet. So it's probably better that I wasn't there. I'm still really shocked she took on 'the man,' it's not her style at all. I think I might have had some effect on her in the last 15 years. :)

Btw: you have one of the best sigs I've seen so far.
 
my wife didnt at first until I started with some health problems and she wanted to see what it does....she is my caregiver so legally she can be in the grow room.
 

RetiredToker76

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Interesting I didn't know that you had to be a care giver or patient to even be in the presence of a grow op in a legal state. I'm not sure that I'd even care about that 'rule' if we got legalization down here, seems kind of dumb; like saying anyone under 21can't be in the Busch brewery which I'd toured at least every other year from 10 - 21, then it got boring. :)
 

VLRD.Kush

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my ex was cool as hell with it. she always would toke up with me, not as much. But she likes smoking and even buys her own bud.
 

dirtsurfr

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I'll tell her she got rep points. I would have loved to have been there too, save for one problem, I've been dry for a week, which has put my attitude in the toilet. So it's probably better that I wasn't there. I'm still really shocked she took on 'the man,' it's not her style at all. I think I might have had some effect on her in the last 15 years. :)

Btw: you have one of the best sigs I've seen so far.
Thanks and it's the truth, BTW my wife gave up smoking the herb for 7 years for a POS job in a Casino, she no longer works there and now I can't get her off the pipe LOL I think she's making up for those 7 years.
But she never once made me feel bad for smoking in front of her.
We've been married for 36 years going on 37
 

xKuroiTaimax

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Hmm... One worry is that one partner will 'encourage' the other. I'm a individual when it comes to smoking, but I know too many people who will foloow the crowd and smoke more than usual just to match pace, and it's really sad. I think it's become easy to stop 'watching yourself'.

My parents were huge stoners, and half the reason my dad would flip if he found out I smoke because he nearly killed my mother enough times- weed made him paranoid and agressive. Like strangling people and holding them over a balcony aggressive. The two of them spent alot of time shut up together smoking pot, they argued but they were passionate. Now they're sober, they're still a little quick to fly off the handle, but now they're not smoking together they're not even like a couple at all anymore...

That being said, I'd like weed to be something I share with a lover, in both just smoking it and a genuine interest in the plant itself. I wouldn't want draw to be something I have to sneak off to do, or take time out of the day away from a lover because I'd rather have my mouth on a bong than them.

I live weed, and I guess I need a guy who loves it just as much, because damn it, that plant is a part of me...
 

LostReefSponger

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My old lady doesn't smoke as much as I do, but she will partake with me nearly daily. When I was dating I dated girls that didn't smoke and when they would find out I smoked they would treat me a lot different, even though I wasn't different at all, only thing that changed is that they knew I was high instead of not being to tell at all before I told them. Even had one girl that smoked cigs (a BIG no-no for me, but I thought I would take a chance) try telling me how bad marijuana is bad for me...she was gone fairly soon after that.

Now my old lady is that, my old lady, for a reason. Met her and she hadn't smoked in a while because she got some PCP laced stuff without knowing it and it scared the shit out of her. Once we started to hangout and everything she decided to smoke again with me. She will usually smoke with me at least once a day, usually when she gets home from work and wants to unwind. She enjoys checking out my grow whenever I check on her, and she is constantly asking me questions about the plants and everything. Sounds like you got yourself a good lady and a smart one at that! Good job man, keep her around!
 

RetiredToker76

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@Poplars: Thanks, I'm thrilled to have a thread that's more than 4 posts long :)

@Kuroi: I can see how 'encouragement' would be a problem. The only reason I actually started toking after 15 years was because she expressed curiosity. Having a lot of experience from high school, I decided it would be better if I took the reins. When she didn't particularly enjoy being high it became a non-issue, other than the fact that suddenly my arm and back didn't hurt and as a friend puts it, "I returned to the land of the living." Which is exactly how it felt.

@Lost: Ya I remember getting some PCP laced stuff in the 90's. I spent 2 hours in the back of McD's puking all over my friends tire, it was one of several reasons I retired all intoxicants for 15 years. Even though my wife didn't like smoking, she came to enjoy my grow when I had it. She would look at my plants and say "OOoooh pretty" or come home and ask, "How the girls doing?" Having been dry for a while now she keeps telling me she can't wait for me to finish my degrees so we can move to a medical state where I can grow freely and if I need purchase from a dispensary instead of trying to find someone with supply, which oddly has been getting more and more difficult in the last 6 months. I can't wait until the 1st when I can go get a sack. :)
 
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