That's the thing, what you call help is actually forcing. You refuse to acknowledge this for the simple reason that, using a 3rd party (government) to force a debits upon others, or threaten them will being locked in a cage, is force, no matter how you look at it.
While it may be "the right thing to do" based on your judgement, it's no more right, to take from society's pockets and threaten them with being caged, in order to achieve the goal of "doing what's right". A unjust solution is never just no matter how you word it. Your mentality on the subject is a complete fallacy. Not because I say so, it just makes no logical sense.