Trust

Who needs it?

I believe we all do. We all need to trust people at some point or another in our lives. We all have been stung or thwarted by this trust at some point in our lives too. Does this make us bitter or sardonic, or do we just learn who the right people are to trust?

Who here finds it difficult to trust others? Are we, here at RIU, a good judge of character or do we prefer to err on the side of caution.

for some reason i trust everyone. then they screw me. then i give them another chance. i try to believe people are good.

I believe people are inherently good too. But, I only get stung once.

I agree with FDD... I would much rather trust people than not, though there is only so far my hand will extend.

I've learned to be a little more bitter and life has been the teacher, with me now you are guilty until proven innocent.

I've found i've been getting done over less since i have adopted this policy.

I'd like to believe that people are good deep inside, but thats a fairytale, in this day and age everyone is out for what they can get, occasionally you meet some nice folk that you get along with and think like you but most of the time everyones out for their own agenda.

Maybe we could edit the pole and have more options available to us.

Maybe something along the lines of

I trust people until they have given me reason not to

I trust people that i know but am wary of others.

I dont trust anyone until they have proven themselves.

I don't trust anyone and it would take a lot for them to covince me.

You must first trust someone to find out if they are trustworthy.

There are a lot of people in the world that seek to take advantage of trust. I believe filtering out the riff-raff is something we learn.

We all have agendas, trust is about amicably sharing an agenda so that both parties benefit.

I'm with Skunk on this one. I used to be like FDD and trust everybody, then I got thrown under the bus 1 too many times. Now I don't trust ANYBODY until I get to know them. I'm usually a pretty good judge of character, and if someone rubs me the wrong way right off the bat, I shut them out immediately. If I think someone seems pretty cool, I will give them the benefit of the doubt (not too much) until I feel they are indeed trustworthy.

skunkushybrid said:

You must first trust someone to find out if they are trustworthy.

There are a lot of people in the world that seek to take advantage of trust. I believe filtering out the riff-raff is something we learn.

We all have agendas, trust is about amicably sharing an agenda so that both parties benefit.

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I believe that at first you wouldnt trust someone, you would put your trust in them.

Never trust a salesman...especially insurance and vacuum cleaner salesmen.

Only trust a saleswoman if she has nice breasts.

nongreenthumb said:

I believe that at first you wouldnt trust someone, you would put your trust in them.

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Yes, very good point.

Never trust anyone. Especially in serious matters. People are good, but they also fuck up... And when they fuck up, it's your ass. Stay away from people... Newton knew what I'm talkin' 'bout!



I hate you all!

I dont know, in general I follow the rule "Belive in Allah , but tie up your camel" people are generally ok but dont trust them as a percaution...If I really need to know, I offer theese people a small piece of my trust (nothing too important or damaging in the long term) and see what they do with it, If I am planing to use someone for anything, I offer them a task 1/4 of the desired task and 1/4 pay than I see how they did and how they spent the money, cos sometimes a good paycheck can destroy a person...Never trust a hippie or a junkie or a whore...

krime13 said:

...Never trust a hippie or a junkie or a whore...

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Now that is interesting. You base your trust on stereotypical assumptions.

What would you define a junkie as, or a whore, or for that matter, a hippy?

I smoke weed all day long, am I a junkie? A woman marries a man for his money, is she a whore? A guy has long hair, is he a hippy?

4theist20 said:

Never trust anyone. Especially in serious matters. People are good, but they also fuck up... And when they fuck up, it's your ass. Stay away from people... Newton knew what I'm talkin' 'bout!



I hate you all!

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Yes, people do fuck up. It takes time to trust that they are not the type of person to fuck up. Which is why as adults we have very few true friends. The ones that don't stand firm, are the ones you leave behind.

skunkushybrid said:

You must first trust someone to find out if they are trustworthy.

There are a lot of people in the world that seek to take advantage of trust. I believe filtering out the riff-raff is something we learn.

We all have agendas, trust is about amicably sharing an agenda so that both parties benefit.

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Hello, everyone!

I agree with that you must trust them first to see if they are backstabbing. I've always been duped one time or another and even if i can trust people, i always feel as if they are planning something against me which draws me to unnecessary conclusions and doubt's to make plans for myself to be ahead, paranoia? probably.

Alot of people have big mouths even when they are not even involved! It takes time to keep your mouth shut it did for me i said some things that i knew shouldn't have.

Would i like to find people i can trust certainly but i don't think you will find that just around the corner.

skunkushybrid said:

Now that is interesting. You base your trust on stereotypical assumptions.

What would you define a junkie as, or a whore, or for that matter, a hippy?

I smoke weed all day long, am I a junkie? A woman marries a man for his money, is she a whore? A guy has long hair, is he a hippy?

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NO, some people put themselves in those situations and try to liveup to fullfil the stereotype mostly hippies in this example who are hippocrats for the most part (and I am not talking about hippies in communes or activists cos they are to me just farmers and unseccessful polititians,) I am talking bout the pretentious artsy fucks that would approach you on the street and be like "Hey friend can I bum some smoke? Or hey brother can you spare some change?" I hate those 2face fucks! A junkie is someone addicted to heroin and like it or not they will rip you off sooner or later... Finally , if you were a rich man and you knew your wife is a trophy ,would you trust her?

krime13 said:

NO, some people put themselves in those situations and try to liveup to fullfil the stereotype mostly hippies in this example who are hippocrats for the most part (and I am not talking about hippies in communes or activists cos they are to me just farmers and unseccessful polititians,) I am talking bout the pretentious artsy fucks that would approach you on the street and be like "Hey friend can I bum some smoke? Or hey brother can you spare some change?" I hate those 2face fucks! A junkie is someone addicted to heroin and like it or not they will rip you off sooner or later... Finally , if you were a rich man and you knew your wife is a trophy ,would you trust her?

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Ah, thankyou. I know people addicted to heroin that live perfectly normal lives. They have their habit (just like we do with weed), and never rob anybody. You can't slander somebody because of their drug of choice, nor because it doesn't match your own. Although I will agree that the majority of heroin addicts are the scum of the Earth. But there are also plenty that hold down jobs, have mortgages, are millionaires.

We don't get hippies in my country. They call themselves 'students' over here, and they certainly don't beg on the streets. The people that do that, usually have nowhere to live, have no money, so must either beg or steal to survive. The ones that choose to beg, do so because they haven't yet worked up the courage to steal it from you.

If I was a rich man, I wouldn't give a fuck. Which is really beside the point. Is a woman that marries a man for his money, a prostitute?

Yes Skunkushybred in my eyes she kind of is, however, lately I have been questioning the whole idea of marriage and how much sense does it make, but thats a toppick for another thread...Ideally people should sleep with each other only because they both feel like having sex, not because they are married or for pay. I also desaggree about junkies, it is not a drug of choice it is a desiese that is very hard to cure your self from, yes there are some very decent people that catch it, but in the end they proove that the sickness is stronger than they are everytime they shootup...Given the right circumstances they will sell you out for a fix, even if they are millionares. As far as hippies, I guess the best definition of the people I am talking about is "The people that choose to be unemployed and homeless and choose to beg you for the things that they need, taking advantage of your compassion meanwile completly disregarding your situation or needs".