What do you consider desperate behavior in a female?

Urca must be leaving out pertinent details of what happened so that people will feel sorry for her and side with her.

jonblaze420 said:

Urca must be leaving out pertinent details of what happened so that people will feel sorry for her and side with her.

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Happens all the time but sometimes it's easier with a long story to sum it up to fit your agenda

what details? it went down the way i said.

Howdy Urca.

I think that in the most psychedelic sense cats are a good pointer to how we should be.

When a cats lazying around its not usually attractive to me, its no fun.

When a cat keeps desperately pestering me for attention it gets annoying...

When I see a cat totally going for something, pulling that look of focus and doing what it loves to do (which is hunting or playing with a random object) then I`m in love with it!!

Anyone think that people too are really cute when they do something they like? Like when my girlfriend is baking or organising a little bit of her stuff, the look in her eyes!! I won`t stop until I`m told off, very badly

Doing something with grace is the most attractive thing. Like a creature in its habitat... like a cat

Funny I was just thinking how shit my cat is. Can't blame him for being a lazy shit though he takes after his owner. A girl wouldn't last as long as my cat as far as amusement potential goes

I trained my cat to do dog tricks... I gave him a bath today, he looked funny.

If I hadn't had similar experiences myself, Id think the same but I know men can indeed be that cruel and dismissive and just brush you off like that when you've done everything in your power to make them happy. You give them everything and tear yourself away from them to give them space, come back when they ask you too and they STILL want to blow you off for some bitch.

I agree with Tenner. T-Bird isn't mine, but he always finds himself drawn to me, sneaking up behind me to press against my back if he finds me cooking in the kitchen or playing his piano.

The only thing I've ever considered desperate in anyone is changing for someone. I don't mean like putting the toilet seat down, that's a learned habit, but if (JUST AN EXAMPLE) you're Christian and the other person is Pagan, you can't just change that to suit them.

xKuroiTaimax said:

I trained my cat to do dog tricks... I gave him a bath today, he looked funny.

If I hadn't had similar experiences myself, Id think the same but I know men can indeed be that cruel and dismissive and just brush you off like that when you've done everything in your power to make them happy. You give them everything and tear yourself away from them to give them space, come back when they ask you too and they STILL want to blow you off for some bitch.

I agree with Tenner. T-Bird isn't mine, but he always finds himself drawn to me, sneaking up behind me to press against my back if he finds me cooking in the kitchen or playing his piano.

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Aww Kuroi, this person is an idiot... Even with respect to what I`m about to say. You sound like a cool girl too, said to you countless times on this forum.

Unfortunately we all have ego`s and like said before its easier to brush someone off than be nice to them. Above all things in life the biggest (+) is to know that your comfortable with yourself and are equally as content alone. Its what meditation teaches you (or drugs!). Once you have set your foundations, then your set to live life with emotional freedom!

I get your point, Kuroi but my mother always told me to never take the word should for granted in life. I never really understood her at first, but after a couple of years I really got what she ment by that. Nobody should do anything, not even the most simple things, like expecting love in return for love. We really don`t have any obligations than what we make them to be and thats up to us, not another person. Can`t make obligations for others.

This idea sounds really simple, but one look around you says its not really that simple and the truth behind it is really neglected... Specially in relationship problems. People are locked in negative loops beacuse they can`t fully acknowledge this and are still expecting something off a seperated entity. Hand in hand with saying you can`t change someone.

And in a cat way of thinking, you need to be the other cat, which is doing her thing with grace. If the toy is no fun go play with something else. Simplicity is an awesome thing

Urca please don`t just skim over this

I lost my love about a year ago due to my own fault. I started dating about 6 months ago. One of the girls I met told me she was a child psychologist which I thought was very noble and expected her to be one of the sane females I came across. well within two days of talking to her, just texting mostly mind you. She starts telling me she wants me to give her 8 children WTF. Naturally that creeped me out so I back off a little. A week later shes on facebook posting that shes in love with some one else lol. This woman is 31 years old. Thank God I got my love back now I dont think I can do the whole dating scene anymore. in the past year I talked with 9 girls and dated 2. single life sucks.

Urca said:

eh basically it was between two instances, one was the first night we hung out together, the first kiss etc... next day told me i was desperate. then a few months later (same guy ive been seeing since may) tells me that even though we havent seen each other in a long time he cant quite afford to come and see me. I had some extra cash on me at the time and I felt guilty about the expenses he always racked up coming to see me, so i offered to pay for his gas.
called me desperate again.
maybe I am

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lol sounds like hes trying to get rid of you. fuckin stop talking to him! he is probably not liking you clinging on him. he just likes the blowjobs, and after he realized you werent gonna fuck him, he is trying to get rid of you. i did it all the time in high school lol. oh and please dont go and fuck him to get him back. it will not work!

Luger187 said:

lol sounds like hes trying to get rid of you. fuckin stop talking to him! he is probably not liking you clinging on him. he just likes the blowjobs, and after he realized you werent gonna fuck him, he is trying to get rid of you. i did it all the time in high school lol. oh and please dont go and fuck him to get him back. it will not work!

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At least you're honest. I hope threads like this will help you guys have a think about how you treat/used to women.

Good advice, though.

xKuroiTaimax said:

At least you're honest. I hope threads like this will help you guys have a think about how you treat/used to women.

Good advice, though.

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no it pretty just showed me women fall for the dumbest shit, which i already knew

urca, do you think any guy that seriously liked you would call you desperate to your face? twice?! even if i thought a girl was desperate, i wouldnt straight up tell her like that unless she was annoying me and i wanted her to get the fuck away. or if i was drunk lol

THZZELJR said:

I lost my love about a year ago due to my own fault. I started dating about 6 months ago. One of the girls I met told me she was a child psychologist which I thought was very noble and expected her to be one of the sane females I came across. well within two days of talking to her, just texting mostly mind you. She starts telling me she wants me to give her 8 children WTF. Naturally that creeped me out so I back off a little. A week later shes on facebook posting that shes in love with some one else lol. This woman is 31 years old. Thank God I got my love back now I dont think I can do the whole dating scene anymore. in the past year I talked with 9 girls and dated 2. single life sucks.

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What a fruit loop. Guess that's why she got into her trade though. God help the person she's with. Thing is women seem to now think its acceptable to decide they want kids and anyone they meet is merely the sperm donor. You can tell from the 50% divorce rate that relationships are hardly til death do us part

Luger187 said:

no it pretty just showed me women fall for the dumbest shit, which i already knew

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Women don't fall for dumb shit because they're stupid. They're decent enough to not assume the worst of people; maybe you just give people shit.

Agreed I am the type that once I am married I will do anything to make it work so she was totally a turn off lol. Weird thing was is she kept saying how religious she was because that is something that is important to me in a woman. I can kinda see it her way though now that I am almost thirty. I am ready to have a family but its not something I will force.

Here's my second thought. Desperate is being called desperate and then asking a bunch of strangers to convince you that things are otherwise.

tip top toker said:

Here's my second thought. Desperate is being called desperate and then asking a bunch of strangers to convince you that things are otherwise.

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ok get this... so I made this topic when I was in a bad place, kinda depressed cause someone just died in my family, and I was focusing on negitive shit. It happened months ago and I should just forget it because it's never been brought up again, but you know what? I was sad and hurting and in my head I was getting down on myself, so I was hoping this would make me feel like I wasnt being that way so I could stop punishing myself for whatever I did to be considered desperate.