Wife Wants A Divorce For Smoking and Growing Weed!!!!

quiet possibly since the other woman (her aunt) is older she could be taking advice from her

.... Slip out the back Jack, make a new plan Stan, you don't need to be coy, Roy ....... you get the picture.
"Behind every good man there is a woman holding a bong", Me

but seriously, good luck to you...

C ya
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Hi, I'm actually NOT Touchet, this is his wife, Touche. He asked me to read this. I agree with kitty and I would like to add something. Personally, I think during those life changing things she has been doing lately she has done another, if ya get me? I'm really sorry to have to say this, but I think she is attacking what is your most passionate subject because she knows its her "out". As kitty said, you dont want any trouble so her divorce will be smooth sailing and she knows this. I think its just not meant to be and its better it happens now than later my sad friend.

and to Kitty,

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That sucks. I bet you don't have any problems with her cause you toke. If you didn't, you'd probably be more irritable and some of those little things she does would bother you more and you'd want her to change 'em. I wonder if she would?

I'm not telling you to stop smoking or to kick her to the curb. I am saying that you're being very thoughful from what you're telling us. That's a good thing. How thoughtful is she being by just giving you this ultimatum? What does she love? Would she give it up to stay with you?

I'll leave you there with your gears turning. Good luck, bro.

Touchet's wife is right...all you can do is take a rip for all the happy years you have had and forget them

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Touchet's wife is right...all you can do is take a rip for all the happy years you have had and forget them

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this IS touchet again, and for fear of not getting laid anytime soon I'm only gonna say "what he said" ^

youv done the more important things that are harder like quitting cigs and going back to school ask her why she wants you to give it up if your not hurting anyone ask her if she still really loves you and what would be next if you cave into giveing up smoking if your not in a legal state and she wants kids i could see why she would want you to quit you could always move to a legal state and tell her to save it but if shes willing to toss 11years over pot and you dont drink or do other drugs and youv done all the other things shes asked shes not good enough for you

Sorry to hear your predicament.... you should not have to make a choice in the first place(but it is what it is) and she should love you for who you are. YOU NEED TO ASK HER WHAT IS IT ABOUT A SIMPLE LITTLE PLANT THAT MAKES HER SO ANGRY AND RESENTFUL TOWARDS YOU. IS IT HOW YOU ACT WHEN SMOKING OR IS IT THE LEGALITIES, ASK HER TO BE SPECIFIC SO YOU CAN GET THE REAL ISSUE OUT IN THE OPEN. FIRST OF ALL NO ONE WHATSOEVER SHOULD DIVORCE SOMEONE FOR CANNABIS PERIOD.

1.) THERE IS NOTHING EVIL ABOUT THE PLANT....AT ALL.(JUST IGNORANCE AND FALSE/MISUNDERSTOOD PURITAN/RELIGIOUS MISCONCEPTIONS)(AND LIES FED TO GENERATIONS PRIOR AND PASSED ON AS THEY WERE LIED TO(THINK REFER MADNESS HAHA WHAT BULLSHIT LOL)
2.) HOWEVER, IF YOU DO MAKE IT YOUR IDOL AND TREAT THE PLANT BETTER THAN YOU DO HER THEN YOU ARE GOING ABOUT IT ALL THE WRONG WAY.
3.) YOU NEED TO PUT HER FIRST BEFORE CANNABIS(PERSONALLY BELIEVE ALL SHOULD GET RID OF THE TERM MARIJana(misspelled on purpose so no link IT ONLY FURTHERS THE NEGATIVE CONNOTATIONS THE PLANT RECEIVES KINDA LIKE THE N WORD FOR AFRICAN AMERICANS OR ANY OTHER DEROGATORY REMARKS ETC...)( IF THERE IS ANYONE ON HERE THAT DOESNT KNOW THE TRUE HISTORY OF CANNABIS THEN YOU REALLY NEED TO DO THE RESEARCH(BUT IM SURE MOST HERE DO
4.) IF YOU SHOW HER THAT THERE IS SOMETHING CALLED ACCEPTANCE AND IT HAS TO WORK BOTH WAYS(ONE WITH HER ACCEPTING YOUR USE OF THE PLANT AND SECONDLY YOUR ACCEPTANCE THAT SHE PROBABLY WILL NEVER TRULY APPRECIATE THE PLANT IN THE WAY YOU DO(DONT KNOW SPECIFICALLY WHY SHE DOESNT LIKE IT BUT TO MOST IT IS SAD TO SAY THIS IS OUT OF THE SAME WAY RACISM IS PROPAGATED...IGNORANCE.)

AND FINALLY, MOST IMPORTANTLY, IT ALL COMES DOWN TO LOVE. TRUE LOVE KNOWS NO BOUNDARIES, TRUE LOVE CONQUERS ALL, AND TRUE LOVE NEVER FAILS.

GOOD LUCK AND PRAYER NEVER HURTS.(THIS IS ALL FROM HAVING A WELL ROUNDED EXPERIENCE OF THIS PARTICULAR SUBJECT MATTER OF COURSE THUS EXPLAINING THE USE OF CAPS LOCK LOL

maaan, i say fuc$ all the hoes. haha jp. im dealing with issues with my girl right now and its just bringing more drama into my life. i love her but im about to call it quits because it always feels like she is jerking me around.

siht7419 said:

Hello RIU,

I am seriously distraught over this. We have been together for 11 years and married for 6. I have always smoked weed around her and even with her uncle. She has only taken a few hits in her life and is not a smoker. I have changed my life for the better since I've met her; she encouraged me to go to college, to quit smoking cigs and to be more financially responsible. We don't have children but do have a cat together. After she lost her job a few months ago, she decided to return to school to get a masters degree and has been working part time in the field she wants to transition to. I do not want to get a divorce but I also don't want to stop smoking and growing weed. I suggested that I quit growing and she wants weed out of my life all together, so that is not even an option now.

I feel that I have already given up on old friends, habits and sacrificed much for her. Now I think that this has gone too far and that I have changed enough for her and am prepared to go through with the divorce and move to Cali.

I really need some advice. What you would do?

Thanks.

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Dude, Man thats tuff one, hang in there don't make any quick decisions.,,,Let it play itself out...

Fucking Chicks always got ya by the bullocks....I'm no youngster, so for me it would be, OK I understand where your comin from
get your shit and get out, I'm goin to smoke a J.....

Been in that situation & it was the weed that I kept rather than the missus - I have a very tolerant missus who doesn't smoke weed but doesn't mind me doing it/growing it.. in fact she encourages it.. maybe you should look for a lady that is a more like that? That way your happy, she's happy... hallelujah.. I know it's a real toughie, but you'll make the right decision whatever it is.. chin up

it sounds like shes just being ignorant and only wants what she wants...tell her what you want and she what she says

I am 50. When I was your age I was married to a woman that wanted to change me. I think she watched too many yuppie TV shows. Bottom line, if she is going for her masters does she hangs out in a climate that is judgemental (maybe?) Question for you? Do you rock at what you do in your job or just stay home and smoke bud all day? My personal philosophy is work hard and play hard. I am an embalmer/mortician for a large funeral home. At work I am in a suit and professional, I see alot of weird shit, me personally I am trying to stay away from alcohol. I liked the other post of just get shitty drunk and she would beg you to just get high. I am now engaged and my lady sees what I am like. She just bought me some very nice nutes at the grow shop.She is involved in my growing (my babies) As you get older you have to find that woman that will accept you unconditionally. But my parents were from Arkansas and my mom said to me 5 years before she died "better adulterous than lazy" So you don't have kids get on a sharing plan for the cat and make the most of your life!

I had my old lady nag me for growing for over 20 years.My only regret is not running that bitch off 20 years ago and never listening to her bullshit to start with....peace

Sorry to hear the bro.Went through the same thing 2 years ago.
And boy am i enjoying the single life again.
Hope all works out for ya.Stay safe and stay stoned.

all these people seem happier when they dont have a ball and chain connected to them...so i would take their advice...but you will always know whats best for your concern

hey all, dealing with a situation with my girl and could use some advice.

not trying to thread jack or anything. HERE is the thread

siht7419 said:

I love her (wife) more, I just am tired of always changing for her. And besides, I never hid the MJ from her and really enjoy smoking. She says that she has always been uncomfortable with it.

Her uncle (the smoker) just got divorced for the same reason. His wife left, actually called the cops and had him arrested, for smoking. My wife just told me that her uncles ex would call her and cry that he would be smoking in the morning (which wake and bake used to be my favorite, so jealous). Is it possible she's playing copycat?

BTW, thank you everyone.

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She sounds like a controlling person.
Did you actually sit down and discuss this and ask her point blank why she is making this ultimatum NOW? It seems very unreasonable but she has the upper hand if you have an illegal garden. If you really want this marriage to work, regardless whether you quit smoking and growing or not, you both should look into couples counseling.

I'd be gone. i'd advise the same for you.

That is difficult but maybe she is beginning to feel her age. Trust me 30's for a woman is a difficult point. I find myself looking at the last 12 years wondering where all the time went...oh yeah thats right I have been fucked up nearly all of it. I made the choice to put off college and have fun so I didn't earn a college degree until I was 28 now at 31 I have a career and all the material things you can imagine to keep my mind off what I do not have. I have friends carrying around babies and go home every night to a husband and family and I go to an empty house. I spend a lot of time trying to figure out what I want from life because it is getting to the do or die time, I believe she is there also.
She most likely attributes all your bad habits to your marijuana usage. I know I blame all my failed relationships and lonely nights to the fact I have spent the last 10 years becoming a professional druggy and working a job I hate because it pays well enough to keep my shopping and drug habit going.
With 11 years together I have no doubt you are really upset over this and I wouldn't recommend to anyone giving up a relationship for drugs but I would suggest you slow the drug use down. Explain to her you can't just quit the mood swings would drive you two apart and spend the next couple of weeks seeing if you can't find out the real reason behind her concern. Maybe she wants a child but doesn't want to have a child with a guy that puts his high over her. If she has given you such good encouragement in the past maybe you should humor her and see where she takes you next. I am sure you already know she is driven out of her love for you so just trust her.
With that said if you want to be the 40 y/o stoner trying to blend in with the bachelor guys 20 years your junior then tell her "no way I already gave up my buddies" because at some point your marriage either moves forward or you grow apart.
Everyone likes the old stoner dude down the road but no one wants his life.