Wife Wants A Divorce For Smoking and Growing Weed!!!!

mindphuk said:

She sounds like a controlling person.
Did you actually sit down and discuss this and ask her point blank why she is making this ultimatum NOW? It seems very unreasonable but she has the upper hand if you have an illegal garden. If you really want this marriage to work, regardless whether you quit smoking and growing or not, you both should look into couples counseling.

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idk about all that considering the face that it is over mary jane

Not TRYING to thread jack; just doing it, huh? Asshole. We'll get to your post too!


Anywho, I love my wife. Sure, she drives me up the wall sometimes. But thats what women do. They motivate us in one way or another. Some are better than others. So I'm not saying that I could not survive without my wife, but damn, I'd be pretty torn up. And I haven't been married for 11yrs to her. So maybe everyone else is saying kick her to the curb, I'm saying 11 yrs is a long time. It must've lasted that long for a reason. Obviously she's motivated you in the past to change, arguably for the better in some things.

Shit, everything we do in some kinda way if for a woman. Ok, not completely; but vaguely, yes. Money, house, cars = women. Yes, we may like those things too. But we also want a woman who appreciates us for our taste in the things we decide to buy, or our ability to buy the things that we do. Yes, I'd like a new M5 BMW. I think they're cool. But I'm not oblivious of it's ability to drop panties.

I digress... if you feel that the relationship has lasted this long only because of your willingness to change; then maybe it's not time for you to change anymore. Some of the other posters are right, you can't prevent the inevitable. Maybe it is time for a change for you both.

Again, best of luck.

If it bothered her that much from the begining why the hell did she stick around?

i AM the old stoner guy down the road and i think i'm pretty cool

Murfy said:

i AM the old stoner guy down the road and i think i'm pretty cool

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hey now how can you be me if im me.....cause thats me too....LOL

hmmm that would make a well funny tv show, two old stoner men and the stupid crap they get caught up in.... ones hard of hearing the others opinionated and always ranting about how it was back in his day ..... sorry if im off topic i just had the idea and had to write it down

^ This guy might be stoned.

Maybe she has been cheating on you and looking to get out?

hye redhairs, chill out and smoke a bowl. i read through this thread and kinda sounded like i was going through, and everyone had such great advice, i also contributed, i thought someone could give me a little. its not like it really affected this thread. my bad for wanting some advice before i acted on something. this site is like a confidant to me, since i dont really open up to people, and can do it on here without anyone knowing who i really am.

Thanks everyone.

The main problem is she wants to have kids without smoke around. I have no problem smoking in the shed or out of the house if it came down to it, but we don't have any kids yet. I'm so confused, I have applied to a couple of jobs in Cali. If they call me, I guess that I'll have to make a decision, one that my heart will hate either way.

So here's what she's most scared of, it was almost done.


We compromised and I offered to take the little ones to her uncles house, and for now, just grow vegetables in the cabinet. She agreed. Hopefully, I'll be able to bring a girl to flower within the shelter of the other plants. Are there any vegetables that look like MJ so that I could sneak one in every once in a while?

I know it may sound sad, but you guys (RIU community) are the only people I can honestly ask for advice and have a conversation with about this. So, thank you again.

man you would HAVE to do NL # 5. virtually no odor. as in veggies no. flowers definitely yes

or atleast another low odor strain

ElectricPineapple, what type of flowers or plants can mask the MJ and grow in the same climate?

damn, put me on the spot. lol hold on, let me check my archives haha.

here we go. check this THREAD out

look at chleome. smelly and looks like MJ

There it is finally...the real reason...kids. I was just going to say....ask her for the REAL reason. She has lived with it for years...and now a change has occurred.... ppl usually don't say the true core reason...they pick at the flanks...in this case it's weed.
Take her out to a nice place...not too fancy...just nice... food is important when talking things out.... don't get bombed... but show her you care...and see if she mellows a bit. Marriage is about compromise... on BOTH sides. Meet her halfway...but that also means she has to move too...and not just from "I want a divorce".

Thank, those look just like MJ!

Yea, but we don't have kids yet. She is so bent on having everything perfect that children were never within our grasp. And with my lifestyle (according to her), they never will be.

man, if you love the chick, and you want to be with her, you will do whats right. if you want to grow, get a 1 bedroom apartment and grow in it.

Just came out of a relationship, where eventually, anything and everything i did was made to be not okay after a while. I feel for you man. Been there, done that (except weed wasn't the main issue round here)
Not to talk badly about your wife either, but sounds like she's one of those perfectionist types...Sounds like she needs a reality check of some (psychedelic) kind. But then again, like pineapple is saying, YOU gotta chose what YOU wanna do. Don't take our advice. This is a VERY important life decision and is yours alone.